"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Damn did i mess up totally?!

yankees13

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I went out with this Brazilian girl we went to a bar to get couple margaritas and some food (she was feeding me, giving me her drink etc)..Everything was great good convo flowing, laughs etc.. Then it god bad she asked me if i remembered her name, and i forgot it. So she looked kind of dissapointed. And i think that messed up for me,at the end of the date got kiss on the cheek, and she said we will talk/go out again.


So im walking home and she calls 10 minutes later, i dont pick up. She left a message it wasnt very clear because she was little tipsy but thats what i understood from it. It may not be exact but its what i got from it.

"Hi Luke i just want to say i had a awesome time, we had a great interesting convo, and if you want to go out again its up to you. Sorry for being 10 min late.. Honestly i dont know im still processing the information your really cute, fun and smart but i just dont know. I would love to go out with you again as friends i just dont know your really cute and really fun to be around. By the way not remembering my name is not cool, learn it and save my#, we will go out again. Im going to sleep goodnight sweetheart."

So i dont know right now she probably wants to stay as friends, and she may be a little undecided the main reason may be. because i forget her name i think that definitely messed up for me.

Im thinking of sending her an email and apologizing, yea some of you may say so AFC, but i think it is kind of disrespectful actually very disrespectful not remembering your date's name in the middle of the date..

Any suggestions what to say in the email, or what to do, so she i guess forgets about the mishap(hard to forget that lol i know) and we can start from scratch or just continue where we left of on the date before the mishap..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You're fine in my book, if she was really not into you, she wouldn't have bothered to call at all. That's the way I see it. The name thing is just her neg-hitting you. Don't apologize, just make a joke out of it and keep moving with this girl, you're doing fine.

If I were you, from now on, every once in a while act like you don't remember her name, it's a perfect inside joke.
 

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Becker,

I was hoping you would be right:D.. But i guess we werent i went online for a couple of min and she messaged me..

She basically asked me if i received the voicemail and asked what i thought about it..... I told her it was pretty lol and that i wasnt sure what to think about it... She said that im very cute and interesting but the chemistry wasnt there ( i dont know having a convo throughout the whole night, her laughing, having fun, little bit of touching, feeding) that sounds like just a bit of chemistry but maybe im lost.... Then she asked if we can go out as friends and have fun... I said i guess, i dont see a problem.. Then she was like im happy that we live close to one another, cuzz we can go out and get drunk..( I was thinking yea whatever in my head lol)

So yea i guess all is not lost, but its not great when a girl tells you after the first date she wants to be friends, who knows maybe it will change after we see each other couple of times.. But im dissapointed a little
 
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Yankees - next time you see 'Rumpelstiltskin' go for the kiss - if she shuns you then laugh it off and then go home - unless you truly want to be her 'friend'/drunk buddy!!

Tell her your dog is your best friend and you don't need another one! Never become a friend to a girl who you are attracted to!!
 

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wtf! dont email her! u played it just right! by not remebering her name, u give her the impression that u know many other girls and she has to work for ur attention! and she calls and give that message. if you fuked it up, she wouldn't have called you. DO NOT EMAIL HER. email is only good if ur phone is broken. Call her, get another meet, if she doesnt something good say "awww ur so cute..<name>" and emphasis on her name. she'll feel special and u go in for the kiss. escalate and boom, next thing u know, ur posting a LR.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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