"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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After all this time it happened again. I suppose it was never gone but just lying dormant. Nevertheless it is back: I've got oneitis for the girl.

Its probably because the relationship with the girl that I was seeing (casual dating) these past months came to an end recently. My oneitis didn't know about this relationship until after it was over, but is now under the impression that I am in a relationship with this girl (hard to explain) and I don't know anyway to let her know that I am in fact single without the obvious intentions being too blatant. "Oh by the way oneitis, you know the girl you think I'm dating, well we aren't anymore. That means I'm free to be with you!"

My gut tells me she wants me but sometimes my head just doesn't believe it. I have no problem gaming and flirting with other girls and even still she should definitely feel how much I desire her (we dance together, she feels my physical affection). All her friends want me and play and flirt with me, and this she notices to be sure. Her blog says she dreamt about 'someone special to her' without naming who it was. I know her life well, probability is high that it would be me. That would be good because this girl is relationship material.

Gotta find a solution to this.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well the obvious problem is your oneitis. You have her on a pedestal and are obsessing too much over her perception of you. Game her like you would all the other girls. Her perception of you dating someone else is no big deal. In fact, you could play her ignorance about your relationship status to your advantage since girls are competitive and like to steal each other's BFs. Or if she asks and you don't feel like being coy, just tell her that you aren't with that other girl anymore and change the subject like it's no thing. IT IS NO THING!!
 
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I think you've obviously just put this girl on a pedestal for some reason. You need to drop that quickly and stop over analyzing every little detail between you two. If you think that the person she is referring to in her blog is you, then you should obviously know at this point. And if you know then what is seriously stopping you from taking advantage of the situation. Don't make up excuses to be a wimp. Just admit it and overcome it. Then get the girl.
 
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Do this...

Aru: U need to ask this girl out on a date, then if she doesn’t ask you " how can u ask me out on a date if u are with (the other girls name)" which u would answer with " well, I thought u knew.. I’m not with her anymore" then u just go on a date with her and tell her that u and the other girl are not together anymore and then just see her reaction and act accordingly.


Laterz...
 
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date........

Hey,

Ask her if she wants to go out on a date.

Either 'hook up' and date her or move on.



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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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