So Ill keep this as simple as possible, Im currently in a relationship, one I want to break off soon, and started talking to another girl, whos hotter and more of my type, however she just found out that I have a girl friend and has been responding less and less positively than she has in the past. Anyway I can sort out this mess.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Darth_Qurashi
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hehe, i know that situation.
I would say break up with ur gf as soon as possible. Don't waste your time, or money, if you know it's gonna end soon. As long as you have it there, it's gonna weigh you down, its like a big ****block
I would say break up with ur gf as soon as possible. Don't waste your time, or money, if you know it's gonna end soon. As long as you have it there, it's gonna weigh you down, its like a big ****block
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i wouldn't give up a sure thing if the hotter girl wasn't a sure thing
if she knows you broke up for her then she will have more power and it may not go well
if you were gonna dump ur gf already then go for it, being single is cool
if she knows you broke up for her then she will have more power and it may not go well
if you were gonna dump ur gf already then go for it, being single is cool
iliketennis
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are you serious?!?! a "sure thing"? you make it sound like every guy should keep their girlfriend for fear of never being able to get one again. AFC mentalityBananaSmile said:
if he wants to break up with her then why should he stay with her. regardless of whether things work out with the new girl, if things are dead with the old one, he should end it.
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He did say "if you were gonna dump ur gf already then go for it, being single is cool". So he's not really saying "stay in a relationship because you can't find another girl".tobylikestennis said:
OP, how have you handled this situation so far? What have you told your new interest? How have you explained the whole thing to her?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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that's true. i guess i overlooked that sentence. just struck a nerve when i read the "sure thing" thing haha2crudedudes said:
