Dam that ASD (anti-slut defense)

[myfriendblu]

Guys, I admit it - That dam anti slut defense is a bitc h to get around. To make a long story short, this is the 3rd time in prolly the last month or two that its gotten me un a bundle and NOT gotten me laid.

For those of you that aren't familiar, ASD, or otherwise known as anti slut defense, is a term in which a girl really digs you, has high IL, but won't hook up with you the first couple of dates or so.

I was diggen this HB 8 I met while working (she is an outside client, doesn't work in my building, Im highly against that) and we sparked up some convo and hung out. To make a long story short, yep, despite IL bordering on a 9+ and some hot and heavy kino/making out, that dam ASD kicked in and I got nowhere past 2nd base. Argg, I hate waiting past the 2nd or 3rd date.

I admit, even for a experienced DJ like myself, this ASD can be a bit of a challenge.

 

[JT47319]

Possible ways to get around the ASD is 1) give her some sort of emotional connection or rapport so that when the sex kicks in, she has an excuse to have sex WITHOUT feeling like a slut. 2) Make it guilt free sex. Take the "blame" as if she didn't have a choice (iHER: OMG, he was SUCH a playa, I couldn't help myself!!!) or (YOU: We don't have to do anything that you don't want to).

 

[LuckyStrike]

This can be quite annoying if you're just looking for a roll in the hay. But on the other hand, this is the type of chick who looks to be relationship material(if you're looking for that). You can also look at it as a compliment towards yourself, she is making an effort to take things slowly and not scare you off. She obviously digs you with the high IL she's expressed so I wouldn't sweat it.

 

[Ballistik]

Exactly what Lucky said. If ya just wanted a quick bang, she ain't the perfect girl, but she sounds like really good relationship material.

 

[JT47319]

Every chick has some form of ASD. That does not make her necessarily "relationship" material, it simply means you have to provide the means for her to overcome "feeling" slutty. You have to provide her context that sex with you is fun, innocent and guilt-free and not necessarily promiscuous.