"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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dam it im nervous

mastervampire

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Ok im going to a friends party tommorow and i got that nervous gut feeling u get

like i know its a party and ur supposed to have fun, but im still nervous, like about talking to the chicks there, talking to the heaps of people i dun know etc... i dont really goto partys much and i went to another party he threw and i was such a ***** and i was pissed afterwards

so this time ill like be drinking (like hardly ever drink) to help get me into the mood and loosen up lol


still, i just feel nervous, whats some good tips at partys
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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catch

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ok, i love partys, we all do.

when you get there introduce yourself to as many people you can
so that you get to know them and feel comfy with them all...

talk to people you dont know, infact make it a goal to find out from as many as you can...

where they come from
what they work as
what they do for fun
there oppinion of the party

just keep those four things in mind, and its not important how or what you do, just natrauly become curious about people and find out those for things, from girls and guys...

then soon every body will know you and you will have different people talking to you all night... have fun talking, mingling, and getting drunk in the proccess...
partys really are one of the best opportunities to make friends, meet new people and get layd...

then you can go get your piece of bootie for the night...;)
 

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jus go around and say "hey, im (NAME) i dont know anyone here,, how are you all doing?" and shake hands w people, and then talk to all the women @ the party - just talk about anything, ask 'em questions about themselves.... just be yourself, dont think about what other people think - if you think tooo much @ a party it wont be any fun.
 

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You're worried about the type of impression your going to make, so of course you'll be nervous. Girls will pick up on that vibe and you'll be screwed. When I don't know anyone at a party, I walk in like i own the party. I could give two shiots what anyone there thinks about me and I'm not afraid to show it. Once people see this, they will start making their way over to you and starting conversation. Works every time....
 

crackhead

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take a few shots before you go

don't get TOO wasted, but loosen up with some good ol fashioned booze

become the life of the party

lose your inhibitions, through alcohol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Good idea on the having a few drinks before/during...it loosens up a good 98% of the population I've seen. Unfortunately for me, even if I'm falling down drunk, I will not be any more outgoing...friend: "why don't you go over there and talk to that girl?" trashed me: "nah...i wouldn't know what to do" :rolleyes:

good luck and have fun no matter what.
 

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I hardly ever drink. Whenever I drink I get the opposite effect. I get really nervous, nauseated, panicky and have racing thoughts after a couple of beers. If I get completely drunk to where i dont remember anything then I become outgoing but end up getting really sick. Kind of a weird combo so I usually dont drink at all.
 
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