"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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dam it im nervous

mastervampire

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Ok im going to a friends party tommorow and i got that nervous gut feeling u get

like i know its a party and ur supposed to have fun, but im still nervous, like about talking to the chicks there, talking to the heaps of people i dun know etc... i dont really goto partys much and i went to another party he threw and i was such a ***** and i was pissed afterwards

so this time ill like be drinking (like hardly ever drink) to help get me into the mood and loosen up lol


still, i just feel nervous, whats some good tips at partys
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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catch

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ok, i love partys, we all do.

when you get there introduce yourself to as many people you can
so that you get to know them and feel comfy with them all...

talk to people you dont know, infact make it a goal to find out from as many as you can...

where they come from
what they work as
what they do for fun
there oppinion of the party

just keep those four things in mind, and its not important how or what you do, just natrauly become curious about people and find out those for things, from girls and guys...

then soon every body will know you and you will have different people talking to you all night... have fun talking, mingling, and getting drunk in the proccess...
partys really are one of the best opportunities to make friends, meet new people and get layd...

then you can go get your piece of bootie for the night...;)
 

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jus go around and say "hey, im (NAME) i dont know anyone here,, how are you all doing?" and shake hands w people, and then talk to all the women @ the party - just talk about anything, ask 'em questions about themselves.... just be yourself, dont think about what other people think - if you think tooo much @ a party it wont be any fun.
 

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You're worried about the type of impression your going to make, so of course you'll be nervous. Girls will pick up on that vibe and you'll be screwed. When I don't know anyone at a party, I walk in like i own the party. I could give two shiots what anyone there thinks about me and I'm not afraid to show it. Once people see this, they will start making their way over to you and starting conversation. Works every time....
 

crackhead

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take a few shots before you go

don't get TOO wasted, but loosen up with some good ol fashioned booze

become the life of the party

lose your inhibitions, through alcohol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FinchP

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Good idea on the having a few drinks before/during...it loosens up a good 98% of the population I've seen. Unfortunately for me, even if I'm falling down drunk, I will not be any more outgoing...friend: "why don't you go over there and talk to that girl?" trashed me: "nah...i wouldn't know what to do" :rolleyes:

good luck and have fun no matter what.
 

Mr. Delicious

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I hardly ever drink. Whenever I drink I get the opposite effect. I get really nervous, nauseated, panicky and have racing thoughts after a couple of beers. If I get completely drunk to where i dont remember anything then I become outgoing but end up getting really sick. Kind of a weird combo so I usually dont drink at all.
 
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