"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Daily Habits

Heisenburger

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Hello Gents,

What do you consider to be good daily habits that you strive to adhere too in life. You know, the little things that go unnoticed, appear trivial but in the long run change you for the better. This could be anything. Health, family, career, money, relationships....

I'll start.

1. I burn off 400 calories everyday at the gym on the cross trainer. This generally takes me between 28-30 mins. My goal is to get under 25 mins.

2. I don't drink coffee or tea at work. Only water.

3. Fruit oatmeal smoothie every morning.

4. Limit tv to 2 hours a day max. Prison break at present.

5. Always looking to learn in my job. Even on the weekends I will search forums specific to my career. And seeking the wisdom of others. I consider my career a huge priority and one you should enjoy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Slickster

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Good ones

1. Consistently get proper amount of sleep.

2. Consistently get exercise.

3. Scrap daily TV and random internet surfing. Substitute teaching yourself a skill or expanding your knowledge. Ie. learn guitar, 2nd language, etc.
 

Mike32ct

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Reading.

If you read at least 10 pages per day (which is nothing), that's a 300-page book every month. You can improve your knowledge of something related to career/business, a hobby/or skill, or any kind of self-improvement.

If you don't like books, Youtube videos or DVD sets on your topics of interest are ok too.
 
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