"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dahaha reject by the Chinese girl I mentioned.

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It was weird.

I saw her on the way to my campus's cafeteria this morning going to breakfast. I walked with her and one of her girl friends and we talked for a minute. She smiled a lot and moved really close to me when we were talking, almost abandoning her friend.

The usual how was your day yesterday, what did you do, yada yada i wanna fvck you, etc.

ANYWAY. we get inside and i say "more important than what you did yesterday, what are you doing saturday?"

"oh nothing. i don't have any plans."

"well. i can fix that. "

what follows is the only time out of god knows how many times that this number-get has failed:

do you have a phone?
does that phone have a number?
what is it?/or some variation

she blushes. I mean, she flushed BRIGHT the fvck red and giggles to the point of unintelligibility. She, smiling and not saying a word, walks off.


how in god's name do I proceed after this? I'm pretty sure it'd be beating a dead horse unless someone's got some ideas.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There is this magical word called ...are you ready???

"PERSISTANCE"

If that didn't exist in men, then we would probably be sitting in the dark by camp fires right now and you wouldn't be having the problems your having.

I think Edison said it took hiim 10,000 ways of finding out that the light bulb didn't work.

How about letting your bizalls drop and be a man. Ask her again until you get a definite NO.
 

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That wasn't a rejection.... unless she was laughing in a way to suggest that she is somehow more superior to you and you asking her out was like a peasant asking a king....

I doubt that was the case and if it was **** her you dont want a girl like that.
 

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No, it wasn't that kind of laugh. at least, not from what I could tell.

I think she was just nervous or embarrassed or something. She seems really shy and diminutive.
 

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Yuma said:
It was weird.

I saw her on the way to my campus's cafeteria this morning going to breakfast. I walked with her and one of her girl friends and we talked for a minute. She smiled a lot and moved really close to me when we were talking, almost abandoning her friend.

The usual how was your day yesterday, what did you do, yada yada i wanna fvck you, etc.

ANYWAY. we get inside and i say "more important than what you did yesterday, what are you doing saturday?"

Good

"oh nothing. i don't have any plans."

Good response by her

"well. i can fix that. "

Not a good response here, its too ambiguous. You can fix what? Are you going to tell her to come over to help you fix your flat tire or your TV? You need to set a time and a date to do something with her that you know well and that she is interesting in. You have to find that out before you ask her out, otherwise there is no reason she'll go out with you.


"Oh nothing, I have no plans."

"I would love to take you to a great coffee shop around the corner Saturday morning. They have the best Colombian coffee there and we could talk more about ____.

what follows is the only time out of god knows how many times that this number-get has failed:

do you have a phone?
does that phone have a number?
what is it?/or some variation

she blushes. I mean, she flushed BRIGHT the fvck red and giggles to the point of unintelligibility. She, smiling and not saying a word, walks off.

This is rude and she inexperienced.
The point of getting a woman's number and to go out with you is to get to know her better, to see if you have anything in common. She has to have a reason to go out with you.

This girl seemed to like you but doesn't seem to understand basic courtesy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I like the feedback. thank you very much!

I'm here to learn. Just to clarify... the number approach was rude? or her walking away was rude?

I'm confused on that.




When I see her next, I'm definitely giving it another go. There's a good chance I can get this.
 

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Next time you see her, post her up on it. Ask her what happend to her when you asked for her number?? Tell her she was acting weird and you havent had anyone act like that before when you asked for their number. i would make her feel bad ...
 

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her walking away was rude...
 

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Lol Asian girls r rude I can tell u :D, IMO if she blushed n giggled that mean she's interested. She probably just didn't want to seem too easy (even w/ just the phone number), Asian girls r especially afraid of being labeled as a slut. Just don't give a fuk n act normally around her
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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