You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Because that's normal. Look at what Joshski posted. That's the typical scenario.shaunuk said:lolwut, my dad actively encourages shagging everything that moves...I don't make any effort to "hide" alcohol or condoms, why would I?
Lmao my parents are mad chill.Ice882 said:Sh1t, right?
No.
He was cool about it. He took my rum away but let me keep my condoms....pretty cool old guy....
hope he sticks around for a long time.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
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very similar experience once. so ready for collegeeaglez1177 said:Yea some parents are just very chill about everything but other parents just freeak out about everything and dont know how to let off on their kids.
About a year ago my dad happened to find a condom in one of my shorts pockets in the laundry (i have no idea how, my mom does the laundry), but he told me my mom never saw it and that if she did she would freak out. Then my dad gave me possibily one of the most awkward talks I've ever had with him in my entire life. He like told me to get into the car with him to drive to the CVS for something and I was like "Huh why do I have to go?" and he just told me to get in the car. Then like out of nowhere he just asks "Are you having sex with your girlfriend!?" Then he proceeded to tell me about all the possible consequences, and the whole thing just turned out to be very weird.
If my parents ever found a bottle of rum though they would kill me.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
This.shaunuk said:part of this may be the age differences for buying booze in different countries, i.e. The UK (18yrs) and the states (21 usually?)
I've been drinking since younger than 18...my parents would buy me it until I was of legal age. It's pretty normal over here (UK)
And for the sex/condom thing. It's pretty standard for most guys to carry a condom in their wallet. I'd say most kids with decent popularity have had sex by time they're 17. And if not by 19, then you're doing pretty damn sh1t. My mum personally knows I shag around quite a bit, and she asks to make sure I'm using condoms because she doesn't want me getting no AIDS or some girl pregnant.
(naively assuming most of you are from the states) Do lots of you have really strict parents? Booze and condoms (even at a youngish age, like 17 or even younger) are very normal here -- my parents would never have freaked out about either at all..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.