Dated this girl for about 5 months, friends with benies at first, but was looking for more relationship with this one. Played my distance for a while not returning phone calls right away, not being available all the time to keep it interesting. about a month into our sex fest she decided to leave my house because i didn't feel up to goin out. I didnt call her for about a week. did not answer her calls. I felt a like i needed to let her know that i didn't need her. She ended up meeting her girlfriends that one night and hanging out with some guys. We ended up getting involved with each other down the road and she seemed to commit to me. we have had our bad times but have seemed to iron them out. We got into our last argument and she says she doesnt know about us. I agreed with her, we were hangin by a thread. the straw that broke the camel's back for me was a night we went out with friends, and some guy hits on her in front of me. I was beside her when he asks if he can give her his card. she said yes and I confronted her right then, she says no big deal. I have not talked with her since that incident but my friends that i was with says it was no big deal. Am I doing the right thing by moving on without being civil or communicating with her. She has drunk dialed late on weekends and I have not answered.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
cutting Relationships: right and wrong?
- Thread starter md2006
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
Does she still have this card? She might have thrown it out ten minutes later. 
Overreacting to situations such as this one will make you an AFC and kill your relationship. You're lucky if she still wants you at this point.
Overreacting to situations such as this one will make you an AFC and kill your relationship. You're lucky if she still wants you at this point.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
This chick doesn't realize she's supposed to be your girlfriend! Did you forget to tell her?
You started as FwB (basically fvck buddies) are you sure that you want this girl as a girlfriend? She hooks up with you for sex and still openly dates other guys. Who says she won't do this after you agree to be "exclusive"???
You started as FwB (basically fvck buddies) are you sure that you want this girl as a girlfriend? She hooks up with you for sex and still openly dates other guys. Who says she won't do this after you agree to be "exclusive"???