Dated this girl for about 5 months, friends with benies at first, but was looking for more relationship with this one. Played my distance for a while not returning phone calls right away, not being available all the time to keep it interesting. about a month into our sex fest she decided to leave my house because i didn't feel up to goin out. I didnt call her for about a week. did not answer her calls. I felt a like i needed to let her know that i didn't need her. She ended up meeting her girlfriends that one night and hanging out with some guys. We ended up getting involved with each other down the road and she seemed to commit to me. we have had our bad times but have seemed to iron them out. We got into our last argument and she says she doesnt know about us. I agreed with her, we were hangin by a thread. the straw that broke the camel's back for me was a night we went out with friends, and some guy hits on her in front of me. I was beside her when he asks if he can give her his card. she said yes and I confronted her right then, she says no big deal. I have not talked with her since that incident but my friends that i was with says it was no big deal. Am I doing the right thing by moving on without being civil or communicating with her. She has drunk dialed late on weekends and I have not answered.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
cutting Relationships: right and wrong?
- Thread starter md2006
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
Does she still have this card? She might have thrown it out ten minutes later. 
Overreacting to situations such as this one will make you an AFC and kill your relationship. You're lucky if she still wants you at this point.
Overreacting to situations such as this one will make you an AFC and kill your relationship. You're lucky if she still wants you at this point.
WaterTiger
Master Don Juan
This chick doesn't realize she's supposed to be your girlfriend! Did you forget to tell her?
You started as FwB (basically fvck buddies) are you sure that you want this girl as a girlfriend? She hooks up with you for sex and still openly dates other guys. Who says she won't do this after you agree to be "exclusive"???
You started as FwB (basically fvck buddies) are you sure that you want this girl as a girlfriend? She hooks up with you for sex and still openly dates other guys. Who says she won't do this after you agree to be "exclusive"???