"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Cute??? Why cute?? What does it mean????

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Players, romeos, cassanovas lend me your ears,

Just a general question here,

What does it mean when a girl calls you "cute"?

I get called cute about 10-15 times when i go out. Sometimes women just come out with it when im walking past and they say "you're cute", other times when im talking to women they interject in the conversation, "you're cute" . Now just to clarify they always say it in an affectionate way and its becoming a bit hard to tell how they actually feel for me.

Do they think im a puppy? Am i nothing more than a stuffed toy? Or am i potential relationship/boyfriend/one night stand material?

All input would be appreciated, if you could please state where you are from, that would be great for discovering cultural differences.

Lost in translation,

Adrian
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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are you like 5'2" with fluffy hair? that might have something to do with it...

what is your appearance like?
 

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That's awesome! You get called cute 10 - 15 times whenever you go out?! GREAT! That means that you have a natural boyish charm. This is a seductive power and you need to use it to your advantage. When they say you're cute, DON'T play it down. Just say "thank you" or "I know" and then continue with the interaction. Better yet, you can combine the "thank you" with a hug and maybe even a kiss on the cheek. When a girl gives a compliment like that it's the perfect time to go in for some kino.

Don't try to figure out what this means to the girl. It's really up to YOU to decide what it means and what level you want to take it to. Kinoing will definitelly help you take it to a sexual level.
 

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I perfer getting cute than any other compliment. There is something that seems disarming to them when they meet a 'cute' person. Maybe it's not expecting to get brutally hit on because they think you can get any girl based on looks. Maybe it's them being uncomfortable saying you are hot. It means a lot of things, but in my personal experience, it's one of the best compliments you can get.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Whenever I hear girls talking about guys they like/boyfriends, the first thing asked is usually "Is he cute?". Of course, women in their 30s tend to not use the term from my experiences, but it is definitely not a bad thing.
 

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Cute simply means attractive when a girl says it like that.
 

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hanson said:
i was told i was gorgeous before, i would prefer cute or hot.
Uhhh...why? If a girl calls you gorgeous is should take you minimal effort to hook up with her.
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
Uhhh...why? If a girl calls you gorgeous is should take you minimal effort to hook up with her.
We did hook up, but she told me her mom thought i was the "most handsome person she ever saw", i quit seeing her cause she offered me her moms phone number and told me "she probably **** you".

which is why I'm looking for some quality good girls now
 

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daring wraith said:
Do they think im a puppy? Am i nothing more than a stuffed toy? Or am i potential relationship/boyfriend/one night stand material?
it doesn't mean any of that. all it means is your better looking than most of the guys out there and those girls are attracted
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hanson said:
We did hook up, but she told me her mom thought i was the "most handsome person she ever saw", i quit seeing her cause she offered me her moms phone number and told me "she probably **** you".

which is why I'm looking for some quality good girls now
You fvck her mom? Cause i would have.
 

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"Yeah I'm cute. I'm like a f*cking fluffy bunny. Just look at me wiggle my cute little nose! All the ladies dig my hippity-hoppity style."

or

"Oh hells yeah I'm cute! Look at this tight little ass! Is that not an awesome ass? You can't touch it though, I charge for that." or, if the vibe is right, "Is that not an awesome ass? Seriously, touch it!" (Note, that actually has nothing to do with being cute, but she won't complain because it's funny)

or

"Oh hells yeah, I'm cute! Look at these muscles! *strike a strongman pose*

General rule: Agree with her when she says that, then use that to leapfrog to some unrelated concept that's more in line with how you want to be seen. Playfully, of course.

EDIT:
Here are some more:
"That's right, I'm just a little lost puppy dog. Won't you please take me home?" *puppy-dog eyes*
(Note: You absolutely cannot be serious for that one to work.)
"Yeah, I'm a stuffed teddy bear. Look at how adorable I am! *twirl and strike a Zoolander-type pose* Is that not adorable? No, really though, I actually used to live at a carnival until some kid won me as a prize. Hey, why are you laughing? I'm being serious here!" *mock indignation*
 

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Wow, thanks for your responses and making me feel so good about myself as im apparently just so damned adorably cute lol.
(I would have posted sooner if it weren't for this 10 post max thing, anyone know how to turn it off?).

Anyways i think i've just been reading to much into this "working out what cute means", rather than just enjoying the attention.
Again thanks for the ego boost and for all the advice.

Adrian
 

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Dude, honestly if a girl has the balls to say youre cute it means youre harmless to her.. Like a gay man. She would not approach a handsome real man and say hes cute in fear of getting rejected. Simply isnt in a womans nature.

So dont get youre ego too big buddy.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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70Deuce said:
Dude, honestly if a girl has the balls to say youre cute it means youre harmless to her.. Like a gay man. She would not approach a handsome real man and say hes cute in fear of getting rejected. Simply isnt in a womans nature.

So dont get youre ego too big buddy.


Damn there goes all my confidence, im gonna go live in a cave, be a hermit and die alone..... or maybe not.

The last post wasn't meant to be serious, just mainly to thank the people for responding and let them know how im getting on. I was also wondering what other people got called and how often.

Anyways, i'd have to disagree with you about being "harmless". Disarming, approachable, friendly, (i suppose it could be percieved as harmless) perhaps, but that is the goal of looking cute. The simple fact that the girl/woman has just walked up to you and called you cute is a plus (saves you from talking to her first) and opens up interaction. Whether you want to be "harmless" after that is completely up to you.
 

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70Deuce said:
Dude, honestly if a girl has the balls to say youre cute it means youre harmless to her.. Like a gay man. She would not approach a handsome real man and say hes cute in fear of getting rejected. Simply isnt in a womans nature.

So dont get youre ego too big buddy.

You're wrong, for young girls "cute" is a very positive term and all this faux-machismo "real man" BS gets old real quick.
 

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What people don't understand is that there's different types of seducers. Handsomeness is just 1 type of seduction power. Cute is just one type of seduction power. Charm is just one type of seduction power. Who gives a fvck which seduction power you have... they all lead to the same end if you use them properly. And they all, yes ALL, have their pros and cons about them, even being handsome.

70Duece:
If a girl thinks you're harmless, how can you call that a bad thing? The opposite of harmless is harmfull. So you're telling me that if I come off harmfull to a girl then she will be more attracted to me?! How silly do you think that sounds?!
 

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I know where you're coming from. Every time a girl calls me cute, I hate it. It seems like she's my mom or something.

It feels weird, but I don't think it's a bad thing. For one, if you were completely unattractive, she wouldn't say anything. "Cute" means that you're at least not repulsive. I would also say that "cute" actually goes beyond that (especially for younger or HS girls) and would mean just about the same thing as hot.

This is just speculation, but it seems like it would be easier for a girl to call a guy "cute" to his face than it would be for her to call him "sexy" or "hot". This could be a way of displaying attraction without actually letting you know the way you affect them.

Either way, if these girls thought you were creepy or unapproachable, they would bite their tongues for fear of you thinking they were attracted. If a girl calls you "cute" she's obviously not afraid of you being attracted to her.

And you always have time to show that "heart of a sinner" once she gets to know you ;)
 

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i think it's sort of a double edged comment.

On the plus side, they find you attractive.

On the negative side, it's sort of a blow to your masculinity. I can't say i've ever heard a chick say something was cute that wasn't Hello Kitty adorable.

my idea of a girl's cute = http://www.puccaclub.com/

i got my best friend a plushy from there for her b-day and i swear she completely melted. Something along the lines of "OH my god oh my god! I love you i love you i love you!!!!" followed by a series of hugs and kisses.

Girls are strange. :p
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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