"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cute stalker at work! What do??

gravityeyelids

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This girl just got hired and from the moment we made eye contact, she's shamelessly flirting and giving massive IOIs. The problem is two-fold: 1) shes 19, and 2) Im attracted to her physically.

Is this a bad idea? Reasons why it's a bad idea:
1) i work with her
2) she also lives at home
3) she's messaging me on facebook way too often already
4) she's pretty young, likely not that emotionally mature, and probably not even good in bed.
5) Work is a close knit community. If i sleep with her and she gets attached, this could make me look like an a$$ who treats younger girls badly

She's basically throwing herself at me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Building_and_Loan

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It's tough to resist when a hot young girl is all over you, but you're better off steering clear here.

Personally I think this site is a little too harsh on dating/banging girls from work, as both me and my friends have done it with success in the past, and it's never come back to bite me or my friends at all. But that was when I worked in a very, very large office with tons of people and everyone dated everyone more or less. Plus, the girls were all college graduates so they were a little more mature.

Since you work in a close-knit community, and she's still a teenager, I think you'd instantly regret it after you finished up and she's lying naked in your bed eagerly making plans for your weekend together.
 

Tictac

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Just the work thing ought be enough to have you keep your distance.

And you're way smart enough to figure ways to get the rest of her attention (even on FaceBook) down.
 

gravityeyelids

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19? I think this is an attention grab. The moment you reciprocate it will wither.
no she's like hitting me up constantly, saying how she wants to grab my a$$ at work, complimenting me constantly, super available. Im usually pretty good at this point at telling the difference between time-wasters and attention wh0res and real interest. Honestly, im fine with banging her, i just dont want some crazy little girl to fall for me and create drama. I'll screen her for a while before making any decisions. Shes a cool girl and we get along, im just being cautious. The days where im trying to sink into any piece of a$$ i can find are behind me. Too many men going down to STDs/Pregnancy/BPD girls
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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depends upon how hot she is and how much you value that job. If it's just any old job and she's FINE, hell yeah.
 

gravityeyelids

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depends upon how hot she is and how much you value that job. If it's just any old job and she's FINE, hell yeah.
i mean it's a restaurant, so the turnover is high. And not even my main career job
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Since it's only a restaurant, you don't give a eff, and it seems as if you're willing to deal with the repercussions should things break bad, then have at it. My only questions are, if things do go bad and you get fired, do you plan in staying in that industry and how big is the city that you live in?
 

salinechow

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I rescind my previous statement.
Restaurants are a whole different energy than a corp office. Take her out after next shift and then take her home. Act fast, because the sharks are circling.
 
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