"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cute latina girl how should i approach this?

pua1989

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whats up guys....wondering how you guys would approach this situation.

im in a foreign exchange student program until december. one of the girls here is really cute and just so happens to go to the same school i go to. anyway, towards the beginning everyone was trying to mack on her, and were "diminishing" as i like to put it (be a "finisher" not a "diminisher" self-explanatory). eventually most of the guys got subtle hints that she wasnt down .

as for me, im a guy that is constantly upbeat and trying to have fun all the time (and in turn girls want to be with me to have fun too).

my problem is im worried about getting popped in the friendzone. normally, i make it known right off the bat that im interested sexually, making it impossible to go into the friendzone. either im interested and they are too, or our relationship is over. the problem here is since im with her for another 4 months, i dont want to burn the bridge all that quickly because we have planned excursions, see eachother often because of the same program, etc etc. so if i make my move, and shes not down, then its weird for a while.

anyway, what i do though is ill throw my little comments here and there. for example, ill call her:

me: "you ready to go to salsa and tango tonight?" (we dance salsa/tango every wed. thurs.)
her: "yeah i am just give mea few mins"
me: "nice nice......so...uh.....what are you wearin right now?"
her: "haha shut up....im wearing <this> and <this>"
me: "sexy....nice"
her: "haha alright <my name> ill see you soon"

let me make it clear that i do not call her very often or text her very often. im generally busy so i dont really have time to hit her up constantly.

any advice on how i should proceed?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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simple

tell her you want to take her out (something fun, exciting)

if she says no, not interested

if she says yes, shes interested

the problem is that making all those little comments and flirting and whatnot are ok in moderation, but if you never make a strong move, it will buy you a one way ticket into the friendzone.

girls want action. strong men who know what they want and aren't afraid to go for it.

you know you want to get with her. so go for it. just do it.

-SLB
 

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youre right i dont know why im being a ***** about it. ill do it tonight
 
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