"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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cute latina girl how should i approach this?

pua1989

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whats up guys....wondering how you guys would approach this situation.

im in a foreign exchange student program until december. one of the girls here is really cute and just so happens to go to the same school i go to. anyway, towards the beginning everyone was trying to mack on her, and were "diminishing" as i like to put it (be a "finisher" not a "diminisher" self-explanatory). eventually most of the guys got subtle hints that she wasnt down .

as for me, im a guy that is constantly upbeat and trying to have fun all the time (and in turn girls want to be with me to have fun too).

my problem is im worried about getting popped in the friendzone. normally, i make it known right off the bat that im interested sexually, making it impossible to go into the friendzone. either im interested and they are too, or our relationship is over. the problem here is since im with her for another 4 months, i dont want to burn the bridge all that quickly because we have planned excursions, see eachother often because of the same program, etc etc. so if i make my move, and shes not down, then its weird for a while.

anyway, what i do though is ill throw my little comments here and there. for example, ill call her:

me: "you ready to go to salsa and tango tonight?" (we dance salsa/tango every wed. thurs.)
her: "yeah i am just give mea few mins"
me: "nice nice......so...uh.....what are you wearin right now?"
her: "haha shut up....im wearing <this> and <this>"
me: "sexy....nice"
her: "haha alright <my name> ill see you soon"

let me make it clear that i do not call her very often or text her very often. im generally busy so i dont really have time to hit her up constantly.

any advice on how i should proceed?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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strong like bull

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simple

tell her you want to take her out (something fun, exciting)

if she says no, not interested

if she says yes, shes interested

the problem is that making all those little comments and flirting and whatnot are ok in moderation, but if you never make a strong move, it will buy you a one way ticket into the friendzone.

girls want action. strong men who know what they want and aren't afraid to go for it.

you know you want to get with her. so go for it. just do it.

-SLB
 

pua1989

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youre right i dont know why im being a ***** about it. ill do it tonight
 
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