"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Cute Casino Pit Boss Asked Me

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Quick story, i always go to this casino to play..regularly ..for years now. And i know she has a kid and single.

Anyway

One day

She asked me: "So are you married yet:"?

Would this normally mean..SOME interest? This threw me off a bit lol..

Have you guys gotten asked that question and what did that result in?

tnx
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Quick story, i always go to this casino to play..regularly ..for years now. And i know she has a kid and single.

Anyway

One day

She asked me: "So are you married yet:"?

Would this normally mean..SOME interest? This threw me off a bit lol..

Have you guys gotten asked that question and what did that result in?

tnx
Bartenders flirt. Means nothing unless you hit it. That means nothing unless you hit it constantly when you choose to.
 

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Quick story, i always go to this casino to play..regularly ..for years now. And i know she has a kid and single.

Anyway

One day

She asked me: "So are you married yet:"?

Would this normally mean..SOME interest? This threw me off a bit lol..

Have you guys gotten asked that question and what did that result in?

tnx
You should had said, why? Are you proposing with a smirk on your face. Need to think one step ahead dude.
 

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So anyway, i acted on it right after she asked that

me: So what's going on with you? you single, married, or what
chick: not married,

me: What you doing next thursday? (happened to be 4th of july!!! dohh..without me thinking!). Are you free??

chick: "NO" << she said this soo fast. I've never had anyone say this so fast to me lol and say it soooo direct. (i figured it was a **** test)
3 second pause (to see if she counters but no counter offer)

me: So when? ( james bond style tone )

chick: When? ( awkward laugh ) haha.. ( then pauses and continues to work pushing buttons on the screen)
---her coworkers/dealer/friends were next to us and might be able to hear us ---
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I just wana hit it.. I dont want relationship
 

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Bartenders flirt. Means nothing unless you hit it. That means nothing unless you hit it constantly when you choose to.
My patience is too thin and my time too valuable to mess with bartenders and waitresses. My game isn’t setup to pull those types of women anyways (thank God because who the hell wants to date a 30+ bartender or waitress?). I don’t even flirt with them when I’m their presence which I’ve noticed causes them to work me that much harder.
 

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My patience is too thin and my time too valuable to mess with bartenders and waitresses. My game isn’t setup to pull those types of women anyways (thank God because who the hell wants to date a 30+ bartender or waitress?). I don’t even flirt with them when I’m their presence which I’ve noticed causes them to work me that much harder.
Its good to know what your willing to deal with.
 

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So anyway, i acted on it right after she asked that

me: So what's going on with you? you single, married, or what
chick: not married,

me: What you doing next thursday? (happened to be 4th of july!!! dohh..without me thinking!). Are you free??

chick: "NO" << she said this soo fast. I've never had anyone say this so fast to me lol and say it soooo direct. (i figured it was a **** test)
3 second pause (to see if she counters but no counter offer)

me: So when? ( james bond style tone )

chick: When? ( awkward laugh ) haha.. ( then pauses and continues to work pushing buttons on the screen)
---her coworkers/dealer/friends were next to us and might be able to hear us ---
This doesnt sound like she's interested.
 

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This doesnt sound like she's interested.
That’s what I HATE about women that initiate conversations with me with such personal questions if they aren’t interested. I’d rather them just not talk to me at all if they aren’t interested. No I don’t want to be your friend and no I don’t owe you friendliness and small chat. Just leave me alone unless you’re ready to take it past just casual conversation. This thinking drives feminist mad cause they think we owe all women something even if they don’t want to have sex with us. Bs. You don’t have to have sex with me and I don’t have to have any interest in having a meaningless chat with you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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That’s what I HATE about women that initiate conversations with me with such personal questions if they aren’t interested. I’d rather them just not talk to me at all if they aren’t interested. No I don’t want to be your friends and know I don’t owe you friendliness and small chat. Just leave me alone unless you’re ready to take it last casual conversation. This thinking driving’s feminist mad cause they think we owe all women something even if they don’t want to have sex with us. Bs. You don’t have to have sex with me and I don’t have to have any interest in having a meaningless chat with you.
They have a "job" for you. Even if they not trying to fvck.
 

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They have a "job" for you. Even if they not trying to fvck.
Oh I know. They’re constantly sizing you up for some bull crap you can do for them. Girl that cuts my hair tries to talk to me all the time and I hate it to no end.
 

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Absolutely. Their company is always hiring. They have several openings for "unpaid internships" otherwise known as "friendzone."

The "paid positions" (that include sex such as bf, ONS or FWB) are usually full.
The thing about the "jobs" women have for you is that once you accept a job you are locked into that role. Advancement is normally impossible.
 

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The thing about the "jobs" women have for you is that once you accept a job you are locked into that role. Advancement is normally impossible.
This is so true. That’s why I preach until I lose my voice to NOT accept friendship with women under ANY circumstances. Or if you somehow get talked into it and have regrets later, just walk away for good. It won’t get you the girl most likely but it will get you out of the friend zone and give you your dignity back. Sure she’s going to badmouth you behind your back for it but who cares?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This is so true. That’s why I preach until I lose my voice to NOT accept friendship with women under ANY circumstances. Or if you somehow get talked into it and have regrets later, just walk away for good. It won’t get you the girl most likely but it will get you out of the friend zone and give you your dignity back. Sure she’s going to badmouth you behind your back for it but who cares?
I think we want them to hear we aint getting stuck in that position.
 

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I think we want them to hear we aint getting stuck in that position.
I used to tell them all sorts of reasons but I’ve learned that telling them doesn’t change your position. You can send just as clear of a message by walking away without saying a word. No slow fade, just walk away. No responding to texts, no responding to emails asking what happened to you. You don’t even have to give her 2 weeks notice like you do with paying jobs.lol
 

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I used to tell them all sorts of reasons but I’ve learned that telling them doesn’t change your position. You can send just as clear of a message by walking away without saying a word. No slow fade, just walk away. No responding to texts, no responding to emails asking what happened to you. You don’t even have to give her 2 weeks notice like you do with paying jobs.lol
That's how you "tell" them by your actions. They aint listening to your words unless their enchanted.

So your action is she cant get to you. Also now your fvcking and spending time with someone else.
 
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