"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cute, adorable, sweet, and gorgeous.

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Good or bad news when coming from a girl you just went on a date with?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No, it was an internet meetup type thing. I had never meet her before, and we both seemed timid.

Talked about it on msn though, and admitted to it and agreed next time would be better, and that she def wants to get together again.
 

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How could that be bad news? Would you rather she be ugly, b!tchy and stuck-up?

You're thinking too hard man. I swear, these newbies...
 

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She was saying that to me, I dunno the first thing I think of when I hear cute sweet and adorable is a baby or a 2yr old.

That's why I asked.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well maybe she finds you have a boyish charm about you.

Doesn't mean she's going to friendzone you or anything as believe it or not there are a lot of chicks out there that look for the boyish quality in guys so they can mother them ie care for them.

That or its simply the words this particular chick uses when she's into someone.

Like Ace of Flames said you're thinking too much.

Until she gives you the LJBF's speech you are still in the game my brother.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Well maybe she finds you have a boyish charm about you.

Doesn't mean she's going to friendzone you or anything as believe it or not there are a lot of chicks out there that look for the boyish quality in guys so they can mother them ie care for them.

That or its simply the words this particular chick uses when she's into someone.

Like Ace of Flames said you're thinking too much.

Until she gives you the LJBF's speech you are still in the game my brother.
Thanks for the clarification, and the kind response. :D
 

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The only good one of the bunch is gorgeous

The rest are used to describe well.......AFC's
 

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all good - whether you are AFC, An AFC pretending to be DJ, or a real man will remain to be seen for her still, as it was just a first date. But she obviously likes you. Remember, we girls like adjectives LOL
 

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LovelyLady said:
all good - whether you are AFC, An AFC pretending to be DJ, or a real man will remain to be seen for her still, as it was just a first date. But she obviously likes you. Remember, we girls like adjectives LOL

haha ok cool:crazy:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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