"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cut your flake rate in half by introducing instadates!

cola

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Stop setting dates up days in advance. Instead, call them and tell then you want to do something that day ..
For 1 it shows spontaneous, 2 it cuts down on flakes...


You can even make it sound like its not you asking her on a date, but a mutual gathering
It should look like this :

You: Hey
Her: Hey, don juan, what u up to?
You: Nm, u?
Her: Ditto

You: So listen my bro canceled on me going to the midnight release of
MIB lll, and I already bought the tickets online, wanna go? I can pick you u in a hour

Her: That sounds fun!

BAM
Instadate!

You can run these type of scenarios weekly and if you have enough plates you will always have a date

The best part about this is if she declines you can hit the next plate with the same sequence
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Pimp-sicle

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This strategy works wayyyyyyyyyy better if you are with the girl somewhere (school, work etc) and then propose the insta-date.

Calling up a chick without giving her more than a feather of a notice will not make her more likely to agree to go out with you.

When will this board realize that girl's who FLAKE, do so because of low interest period. If she isn't willing to agree to see you, its because she's not interested ENOUGH in that moment. Whether that means she's not interested at all or you just need to work on it some more depends on the situation.

Leave a great first impression and everything else falls in place effortlessly.






PIMP
 

Stagger Lee

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Well part of the reason a girl you just met and made plans with flake can be because of ADD and they met another guy. There's so many guys on every girl that out-sight-out-of-mind effect happens. A woman could be equallyor more attracted to the guy she met Monday and made plans for Thursday with, as the the next guy she met Thursday and made plans with. This happens a lot with internet dating.

It's also about timing. You want to be that same day guy. Female's attraction and focus is fleeting with so many guys throwing c0ck their way.

The problem with trying to get a girl to be spontaneous is she would have to be young, no kids and not a full time career to go out.
 

pdx1138

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No.

This wouldn't work with someone new/getting to know and it sort of reeks of needy/clingy behavior.
 

BadNews

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I think given the right girl, circumstance, and approach to the "instadate" you can and will have success with it. You can view it as needy/clingy behavior if you like, but it can also be viewed as confident/spontaneous. It's all about how you approach it. Most women LOVE spontaneity, so why not give it a shot?

I have done the spontaneous date before, and it has never backfired on me. It is literally all about how you approach it; you need to be fun and confident. Ideally the date will be something fun and active. This kind of date can create a ton of excitement in a girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

VladPatton

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I met a girl in a group gathering and later after getting her number I tried this exact approach. I said "hey, I'm gonna be by your area, wanna grab a coffee or a drink?"
She said "Thanks for the invite, I'm doing something tonight, but lets get together with the rest of our friends and hang out then"

I was like wtf kind of a $hitty counter offer is that???

So in other words, she had low to no interest and the idea turned into a concrete lawn dart. Oh well, I least I now know. She was giving me strong eye contact a few days prior, we had great conversation, but still, she wanted no 1 on 1 time. Nexted her. Phuck that.

Use this tactic with caution. It CAN go wrong.
 

Boilermaker

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Cut your flake rate by being that awesome guy.

Not with some stupid gimmick.

If you guys spend half the time you're spending for tips and tricks on YOU,

you'd dwindle your flakes tremendously.
 
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