thelonewolflegend
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How many messages and days do you usually go back and forth with someone before you ask them out on a date on average jw?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Curious opinion on everyone has to do with online dating.
- Thread starter thelonewolflegend
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Usually 2 or 3, then I say lets have a chat sometime, 9 out of 10 times I get the number, If they say anything else but here's my number, I'll give them mine and usually they will give me theirs and sometimes they will text me theirs. After I get the number I text them Hi it's "my Name" save my number, then I'll text them a couple of days later to make plans. I'm big into online dating and pretty successful at it.
I do loads before there's mention of numbers. I'm unavailable, busy, in demand. I don't need her number, sh1t she should be asking me. That's what has happened on a few occasions. I think it's best not to rush it. Let them feel insecure, let them think you are in demand.
The vast majority flake. It becomes REAL when you have to meet someone,that's been my short experience with it. I prefer the old Skool meet and seduce.
The vast majority flake. It becomes REAL when you have to meet someone,that's been my short experience with it. I prefer the old Skool meet and seduce.
Harry Wilmington
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One Valentine's Day, I wrote a girl at random that I found attractive. I sent her ONE message - something along the lines of "hey, you're single and I'm single and it's Valentine's Day, we should go out" - and in her first message back she agreed to it. My point? Girls are on their to GO OUT ON DATES, so it doesn't really have to take all that long...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Albatross953
Master Don Juan
Depends on the woman, but I do move fast.
On the other hand, I never write women first. I screen the ones that message me. I'd like to say I'm doing anti dumps method, but I'm just lazy and I seem to care less and less about online women.
On the other hand, I never write women first. I screen the ones that message me. I'd like to say I'm doing anti dumps method, but I'm just lazy and I seem to care less and less about online women.
GS750
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This is what I do. I never send messages. I get an average of 3 or 4 a week. But usually only 1/2 of them I find attractive. Then I go back and forth with 3-4 messages. Then I suggest talking on the phone and they give me the number. A girl I'm talking to right now said "oh...I literally broke my phone today so I have to get a new one". I figured that was probably bullsh*t, but I gave her my number anyway. She texted me the next day. So my answer is 3-4 messages before you move to the next step. She's likely communicating with a few other dudes so you gotta strike while the iron is hot.Albatross953 said: