Drdeee
Banned
How is that thing cured?
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The only thing I will disagree with here is the 2nd to last sentence. Most pharmaceutical companies, most scientists for that matter, fail to understand relevant biological dose response curves. Most professionals assume that dose response curves are either linear or some derivative of the inverse of x, with the corresponding asymptote occurring at ligand saturation (basically, the more you take, the more results you get until you reach a saturation point of the drug and stop getting results).ArcBound said:I heard a Nobel Prize scientist speak on this topic and how to treat psychiatric illnesses 2 weeks ago.
He (Eric Kandel) said the reason why psychiatric science is a bit behind a lot of other biological sciences is because up until now, companies have been looking to treat these illnesses the wrong way. Most drugs are tailored to treat a general population of people and try to treat the "core" of the problem.
The problem lies in the fact that diseases such as BPD affect individuals very differently and manifest in different symptoms at times. So future research is going into identifying all of the various symptoms that these diseases cause and then basically making a drug for each major symptom and treating individuals on a case by case basis.
So right now there is no cure for BPD, in the far future, it is possible.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Never banged one but lived with a roommate that had a BPD gf. I shortly moved out when he wanted her to move in. They are Satan's children and I wanted nothing to do with her in case she claimed I raped her or some ****.bradd80 said:damn all these stories are so similar sometimes i think we were all banging the same crazy b1tch
Rule 0 - Don't do it. Now if you read the rest of my post you ignored Rule 0. Good luck to you if you do that:bradd80 said:but by going back to banging the crazy ex, isn't there a real risk of getting sucked back into the insanity of the borderline's world? How do you eliminate/minimize this risk? For example, is there a minimum period of NC that you would suggest is required before going back? This is for purely hypothetical purposes of course..
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
they all have tells. when you get a little older and smarter your mind says "somethingbradd80 said:i think maybe we should consider posting pics of our ex BPD's so future DJ's here don't fall into the same trap that we did and waste time picking up women who are mentally ill
Not really. You always knew. Even if you were younger and less experienced. Your gut feeling told you something was wrong with this girl, yet you ignored it, because everything else seemed like a fairy tale. You learn to understand why your gut feeling is there and you realise it's protecting you.st_99 said:they all have tells. when you get a little older and smarter your mind says "something
is not quite right here"
The bold ones is the one that would get you away from them for a good amount of time along with the following:Rollo Tomassi said:Here's how you cure BPD:
Delete her number
Delete her email and IM profile
Unfriend and block her from all your existing social media sites
Quit your job
Move to a different county or state
Change your car registration and license plate number
File for a restraining order
Post your own obituary and fake your own death
That's pretty much all there is to it.
That would be a great idea if it wasn't quasi-illegal. Posting that kind of info publicly is in that grey area of legality, that if used for the reason you described, the crazy hell-spawn like her could twist it to her favor in the feminist endorsing court system.bradd80 said:i think maybe we should consider posting pics of our ex BPD's so future DJ's here don't fall into the same trap that we did and waste time picking up women who are mentally ill
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.