Drdeee
Banned
How is that thing cured?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The only thing I will disagree with here is the 2nd to last sentence. Most pharmaceutical companies, most scientists for that matter, fail to understand relevant biological dose response curves. Most professionals assume that dose response curves are either linear or some derivative of the inverse of x, with the corresponding asymptote occurring at ligand saturation (basically, the more you take, the more results you get until you reach a saturation point of the drug and stop getting results).ArcBound said:I heard a Nobel Prize scientist speak on this topic and how to treat psychiatric illnesses 2 weeks ago.
He (Eric Kandel) said the reason why psychiatric science is a bit behind a lot of other biological sciences is because up until now, companies have been looking to treat these illnesses the wrong way. Most drugs are tailored to treat a general population of people and try to treat the "core" of the problem.
The problem lies in the fact that diseases such as BPD affect individuals very differently and manifest in different symptoms at times. So future research is going into identifying all of the various symptoms that these diseases cause and then basically making a drug for each major symptom and treating individuals on a case by case basis.
So right now there is no cure for BPD, in the far future, it is possible.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Never banged one but lived with a roommate that had a BPD gf. I shortly moved out when he wanted her to move in. They are Satan's children and I wanted nothing to do with her in case she claimed I raped her or some ****.bradd80 said:damn all these stories are so similar sometimes i think we were all banging the same crazy b1tch
Rule 0 - Don't do it. Now if you read the rest of my post you ignored Rule 0. Good luck to you if you do that:bradd80 said:but by going back to banging the crazy ex, isn't there a real risk of getting sucked back into the insanity of the borderline's world? How do you eliminate/minimize this risk? For example, is there a minimum period of NC that you would suggest is required before going back? This is for purely hypothetical purposes of course..
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
they all have tells. when you get a little older and smarter your mind says "somethingbradd80 said:i think maybe we should consider posting pics of our ex BPD's so future DJ's here don't fall into the same trap that we did and waste time picking up women who are mentally ill
Not really. You always knew. Even if you were younger and less experienced. Your gut feeling told you something was wrong with this girl, yet you ignored it, because everything else seemed like a fairy tale. You learn to understand why your gut feeling is there and you realise it's protecting you.st_99 said:they all have tells. when you get a little older and smarter your mind says "something
is not quite right here"
The bold ones is the one that would get you away from them for a good amount of time along with the following:Rollo Tomassi said:Here's how you cure BPD:
Delete her number
Delete her email and IM profile
Unfriend and block her from all your existing social media sites
Quit your job
Move to a different county or state
Change your car registration and license plate number
File for a restraining order
Post your own obituary and fake your own death
That's pretty much all there is to it.
That would be a great idea if it wasn't quasi-illegal. Posting that kind of info publicly is in that grey area of legality, that if used for the reason you described, the crazy hell-spawn like her could twist it to her favor in the feminist endorsing court system.bradd80 said:i think maybe we should consider posting pics of our ex BPD's so future DJ's here don't fall into the same trap that we did and waste time picking up women who are mentally ill
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.