I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Did you bother to read the link I posted? It explains "WHY" quite well.No, what you’re talking about is progression. You can’t go from normal straight to abnormal. It’s a process. When it STARTS happening is via the means you said, but the reasoning for WHY it’s even possible is much more complex.
I can see how it could. I've never given the male performer much thought, other than Wesley Pipes, because that dude says some extremely funny chit and I get some of my in-sex word game ideas from him, but I can tune the guys out and focus on the female performer as if it were me enjoying and admiring her. I prefer amateur myself. In 60fps particularly.In some sense, even porn itself is training men to be voyears and find pleasure in watching other guys **** a woman. This is why I personally almost never watch anything mainstream porn, just some young couples here and there filming amateur sex.
This is very POWERFUL and your right . We're feeding a habit of admiring another man slaying it Instead of ourselves .In some sense, even porn itself is training men to be voyears and find pleasure in watching other guys **** a woman. This is why I personally almost never watch anything mainstream porn, just some young couples here and there filming amateur sex.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No, dumbass. It describes what happens, HOW it happens. Not why it’s even possible. Know the difference.Did you bother to read the link I posted? It explains "WHY" quite well.
"Desensitized porn users (low dopamine signalling) search for whatever will jack up their flagging dopamine. Once they find it, dopamine spikes, and the process of re-conditioning their sexual response has begun. If they keep masturbating to the new genre, subtle brain changes rewire their sexual circuits, leading to an inadvertent, and often alarming, change in porn tastes that make it difficult, or even impossible, to climax to earlier tastes."
Replace porn with any other addiction and it's the same story. Nothing new, complex or particularly groundbreaking here.
Here is another problem I have often had: don't know what happens in the States, but in Albania it is so hard to find a girl that gives good head. And I expect pornstar quality and technique, but most girls have no idea and it becomes disappointing LolThis is very POWERFUL and your right . We're feeding a habit of admiring another man slaying it Instead of ourselves .
Why does any addict do what they do?.?. For the (high) dopamine spike. You are the only one seeming to have a hard time comprehending this, fvcktard.No, dumbass. It describes what happens, HOW it happens. Not why it’s even possible. Know the difference.
Probably part of the culture. Your going to have to train your babes what you like. Personally I prefer train her than 20+ guys before me to have trained her.Here is another problem I have often had: don't know what happens in the States, but in Albania it is so hard to find a girl that gives good head. And I expect pornstar quality and technique, but most girls have no idea and it becomes disappointing Lol
I’m the only one who understands this, fatty. It’s not about addiction. It’s about sexual deviancy. It’s about WHY something like that is even ABLE around cause a dopamine spike in the first place. If you see two burly dudes having a heavy makeout session, you’re gonna want to rip your eyes out and puke your insides out. But to others, it’s hot. How they got their was similar to the addiction process. But why that was even able to take place is something else entirely.Why does any addict do what they do?.?. For the (high) dopamine spike. You are the only one seeming to have a hard time comprehending this, fvcktard.
https://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-changes-the-brain/
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dude, You're about as dense as a fvcking brick. The op was in regards to pornography and social conditioning period and you are trying to spin it to "why are fagz gay", because what you say is oh so complex, but in your infinite wisdom you know the answer, but you just can't explain it, then get butt hurt, when I've given you a simple explanation. Your ego is about as frail as a teenage girl.I’m the only one who understands this, fatty. It’s not about addiction. It’s about sexual deviancy. It’s about WHY something like that is even ABLE around cause a dopamine spike in the first place. If you see two burly dudes having a heavy makeout session, you’re gonna want to rip your eyes out and puke your insides out. But to others, it’s hot. How they got their was similar to the addiction process. But why that was even able to take place is something else entirely.
Lmaoo "I know the answer to this complex process...I can even write an entire paper on it...I just can't explain it, therefore I can't write a paper on it because it's just too complex. I just wanted to let everyone on here know that I know the answer to this specific question"Dude, You're about as dense as a fvcking brick. The op was in regards to pornography and social conditioning period and you are trying to spin it to "why are fagz gay", because what you say is oh so complex, but in your infinite wisdom you know the answer, but you just can't explain it, then get butt hurt, when I've given you a simple explanation. Your ego is about as frail as a teenage girl.
I might be mistaken, if memory serves me right Albanians are mostly Muslims, which is why you have problems in that department.Here is another problem I have often had: don't know what happens in the States, but in Albania it is so hard to find a girl that gives good head. And I expect pornstar quality and technique, but most girls have no idea and it becomes disappointing Lol
It always has to turn into an argument with you. I’m just on a different level than you. Period. When you don’t know what the **** I’m talking about and call me dense, it just means that YOU are dumb. Read the very first post. It’s not about addiction you idiot. Never knew someone could be so stupid. It’s about cuckolding. That’s the ****ing title for ****’s sake. Not anything you want it to be about for the sake of ‘winning’ a petty argument. Talk about ego. You are using words and ideas bigger than you can comprehend. I was telling lizardking that all deviant sexual behavior is related. You were talking about addiction. Stay on topic stupid.Dude, You're about as dense as a fvcking brick. The op was in regards to pornography and social conditioning period and you are trying to spin it to "why are fagz gay", because what you say is oh so complex, but in your infinite wisdom you know the answer, but you just can't explain it, then get butt hurt, when I've given you a simple explanation. Your ego is about as frail as a teenage girl.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Because your frail little mind would not want to read a research paper. That’s why. You’re just as stupid as the trailer trash above. Kill yourself.Lmaoo "I know the answer to this complex process...I can even write an entire paper on it...I just can't explain it, therefore I can't write a paper on it because it's just too complex. I just wanted to let everyone on here know that I know the answer to this specific question"
*Offered a simple explanation*
" No dumbass you're wrong, I'm right...I just...can't tell you how I'm right cause it's SOOOOOOOOO motherfvckin complex"
Translated: I dont know what the fvck I'm talking about
I've noticed that guys who try to become more 'progressive' eventually end up doing sh*t that strips their testosterone away. I mean, it's like a lot of folks willingly do it because it seems retro or something. People move to big cities and start getting into all this weird crap. So, if you were a weaker man to begin with, you fall victim much more easily.I really dont know what satisfaction they may get to invest in a woman while being turned on from an other man banging her, its not even about voyerism cause the woman its yours, its the one you spent money and time on.
It's not even an excuse to go homo cause its not you being involved and surely it doesnt need a woman if you wanna have sex with men.
I guess cuckolds and those who welcome illegal immigration in europe suffer from the same disease altough the behaviours are not exactly the same, its about using your resourches to make more effective a process to waste your own resources and well being.
I'd love to read a research paper actually idk why you assumed I wouldn't + what's with the personal attacks online? I'm disappointed but you asked for it. You make yourself sound WORSE than the average 19 year old. 4 years with over 4,000!!!! posts on sosuave and look how easily you got irritated. But hey, looks like someone gets to look forward to 4 more years on here but it's totally fine because everyone grows at a different pace. Good luck with your growth.Because your frail little mind would not want to read a research paper. That’s why. You’re just as stupid as the trailer trash above. Kill yourself.
Low testosterone men whos aggressivity is canalized against other men through non violent means while seeking approval and playing by the rules are every government wet dream.I've noticed that guys who try to become more 'progressive' eventually end up doing sh*t that strips their testosterone away. I mean, it's like a lot of folks willingly do it because it seems retro or something. People move to big cities and start getting into all this weird crap. So, if you were a weaker man to begin with, you fall victim much more easily.
People in power love weak consumerists, no doubt about that.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.