johnmich
Senior Don Juan
I heard today (on play your cards right) that 12% of women dont think crying de-masculates a man.
What are your opinions on men crying?
What are your opinions on men crying?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree.Originally posted by Bill
Some people here will say they don't cry, or that men don't cry, or whatever. Don't listen to them, it's perfectly human.
-Bill
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That means that just under 9/10 find it alrite although it does depend on why your crying.Originally posted by Rec_rejection_phobic
absolutly not (i'm not saying i've never done it, just that, notting good ever came out of it...)
12%?????, you do realize that, that's like little bit more then 1 out of 10 right???
Originally posted by Bill
Some people here will say they don't cry, or that men don't cry, or whatever. Don't listen to them, it's perfectly human.
-Bill
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Men do cry. When bad things happen men get emotional about it aswell. It's prefectly natural and also healthy. If you don't feel like crying, then fine. But it doesn't make you more manly. Just more coldhearted. Infact, If you feel like crying but don't, then you are going against the DJ principles. You don't care what people think of you if you decide to cry. You cry 'cause YOU feel like it.Originally posted by 00Kevin
Men don't cry and that is perfectly human
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.