"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Crusade of the Knight: A Journal.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
novaknight
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novaknight
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This is the last part of my little mini-self improvment series.
Well, it's been a long way since Day 1. There were peaks and valleys, but overall, I can say I learned a lot about getting along with people, socializing and stuff like that.
Still not a fan of being social that much. But it's just a means to get what you want. It's kinda like making money. You don't like making money, but you need money to get what you want outta life. You wanna get laid, you gotta master being social.
Throughout this little improvement journey I did quite a lot.
I founded a after school group in school. I now have a circle of people to hang out with.
I try to invite people over to my house regularly.
I work out now.
Although I haven't really scored anyone, I'd say I fit into society better.
At the end of the day though, I still don't like society. Society is ****ed man. When you wwant to stand up, and be different, it drags you back down. Society is a cesspool. They want you to conform, and not live out your dreams and aspirations. The machine wants to control you. If you're different, it will relentlessly try to convert you, until you're a soulless drone again.
Well I ain't going down without a fight. Many people say that as a chink, I'm supposed to study 24/7, get straight As in AP courses, and eventually go to Princeton Yale or Harvard. I'm not supposed to have a love life. I'm supposed to date only nerdy Asian girls, if at all, and be an average frustrated chump.
It's hard though. I'm basically going against the flow of the river right now. But unless you go against the flow, you'll never climb up that waterfall.
NorwegianDJ
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
novaknight
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Bench Press 10reps*5NorwegianDJ said:Whats your workout routine?
Dumbell Press 8reps*5
Hammer Grip Dumbell Bench Press 8Reps*5
Shoulderpress 8Reps*5
Dumbell Deadlifts 8Reps*10
Probably not the best workout but at least it keeps me occupied.
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Also, do you have a pullup bar? If you don't do one arm rows freestanding style.
novaknight
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It's not really an intelligence deficit, more of like a lack of social skills/common sense/repetitive interests for my situation.amohield said:Why are you doing dumbell deads? Where's your barbell?
Also, I know nothing about autism, but you don't seem autistic AT ALL. You seem like a really bright dude.
Many people view me as a man who's book-smart but with little practical sense/pretty awkward. I've gotten better though, I usually rely on my crude humor to carry me along for socializing. Needless to say, I do not like it very much, unless with certain people i like.
Whats wrong with dumbells by the way? I just find them easier to use.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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You cant really perform a proper deadlift with dumbells.novaknight said:Whats wrong with dumbells by the way? I just find them easier to use.
Post your new, or the proper routine you use (reps, sets, currently weight (do you increase every time?)) Then we'll help you out properly.