"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crusade of the Knight: A Journal.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
novaknight
Senior Don Juan
This is the last part of my little mini-self improvment series.
Well, it's been a long way since Day 1. There were peaks and valleys, but overall, I can say I learned a lot about getting along with people, socializing and stuff like that.
Still not a fan of being social that much. But it's just a means to get what you want. It's kinda like making money. You don't like making money, but you need money to get what you want outta life. You wanna get laid, you gotta master being social.
Throughout this little improvement journey I did quite a lot.
I founded a after school group in school. I now have a circle of people to hang out with.
I try to invite people over to my house regularly.
I work out now.
Although I haven't really scored anyone, I'd say I fit into society better.
At the end of the day though, I still don't like society. Society is ****ed man. When you wwant to stand up, and be different, it drags you back down. Society is a cesspool. They want you to conform, and not live out your dreams and aspirations. The machine wants to control you. If you're different, it will relentlessly try to convert you, until you're a soulless drone again.
Well I ain't going down without a fight. Many people say that as a chink, I'm supposed to study 24/7, get straight As in AP courses, and eventually go to Princeton Yale or Harvard. I'm not supposed to have a love life. I'm supposed to date only nerdy Asian girls, if at all, and be an average frustrated chump.
It's hard though. I'm basically going against the flow of the river right now. But unless you go against the flow, you'll never climb up that waterfall.
NorwegianDJ
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
novaknight
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Bench Press 10reps*5NorwegianDJ said:Whats your workout routine?
Dumbell Press 8reps*5
Hammer Grip Dumbell Bench Press 8Reps*5
Shoulderpress 8Reps*5
Dumbell Deadlifts 8Reps*10
Probably not the best workout but at least it keeps me occupied.
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Also, do you have a pullup bar? If you don't do one arm rows freestanding style.
novaknight
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It's not really an intelligence deficit, more of like a lack of social skills/common sense/repetitive interests for my situation.amohield said:Why are you doing dumbell deads? Where's your barbell?
Also, I know nothing about autism, but you don't seem autistic AT ALL. You seem like a really bright dude.
Many people view me as a man who's book-smart but with little practical sense/pretty awkward. I've gotten better though, I usually rely on my crude humor to carry me along for socializing. Needless to say, I do not like it very much, unless with certain people i like.
Whats wrong with dumbells by the way? I just find them easier to use.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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You cant really perform a proper deadlift with dumbells.novaknight said:Whats wrong with dumbells by the way? I just find them easier to use.
Post your new, or the proper routine you use (reps, sets, currently weight (do you increase every time?)) Then we'll help you out properly.