Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wyld, I like you and your posts, typically. But NEVER describe a fight like this again. If my girl said this to me, it would make me want to tar and feather her.Wyldfire said:the hairy dude kicked the guy in the checkered bloomers really hard in the head
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.MetalFortress said:Wyld, I like you and your posts, typically. But NEVER describe a fight like this again. If my girl said this to me, it would make me want to tar and feather her.
See guys, looks matter.Wyldfire said:I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.
*note...I am VERY shallow...so I notice how the guy looks, not his name or how good he does or doesn't fight, lol.
Of course they do.Kwello said:See guys, looks matter.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well, one of the names was right here in this very thread, and the other can be found simply by typing UFC into Google News, or going to ufc.com. It's not that hard.Wyldfire said:I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.
*note...I am VERY shallow...so I notice how the guy looks, not his name or how good he does or doesn't fight, lol.
You're quite welcome. I would imagine his ankle is messed up pretty bad based on the way he fell on it. Feet just don't turn so that the toes are pointing behind a person. It looked like it hurt really badly.Rata Blanca said:Thanks for the link Wyldfire.
Gabriel Gonzaga dominated the whole fight it was amazing. I wonder if Cro-cop's ankle was broken of something
Yeah, I could have...but I don't like fighting so I really don't care who was fighting or what the name is of the organization they fight with. I just know I don't like excessive body hair or speedos, lol.MetalFortress said:Well, one of the names was right here in this very thread, and the other can be found simply by typing UFC into Google News, or going to ufc.com. It's not that hard.
That don't matter anymore cuz Pride is part of UFC now NEWB! Crocop is overrated, FEDOR EMILIENKO IS SO MUCH BETTER 24-1! Pride fighters are good they just have to get used to the UFC rules cuz it's different. Chuck Liddel and Anderson Silva were both PRIDE FIGHTERS! Now they're both UFC. I know that Rampage Jackson is going to win over Chuck Liddel though, he is a better striker and is stronger. Crocop has a weak chin and he didn't fight hard at all, I'm thinking he's going to retire soon.Skel said:Pride fighters might be overrated but crocop is not. Its just that the UFC fighters are underrated.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
e-lie said:The link does not work by the way crocop is awesome but this loss was an upset but hey that other guy has to fight couture good luck![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.