Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wyld, I like you and your posts, typically. But NEVER describe a fight like this again. If my girl said this to me, it would make me want to tar and feather her.Wyldfire said:the hairy dude kicked the guy in the checkered bloomers really hard in the head
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.MetalFortress said:Wyld, I like you and your posts, typically. But NEVER describe a fight like this again. If my girl said this to me, it would make me want to tar and feather her.
See guys, looks matter.Wyldfire said:I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.
*note...I am VERY shallow...so I notice how the guy looks, not his name or how good he does or doesn't fight, lol.
Of course they do.Kwello said:See guys, looks matter.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Well, one of the names was right here in this very thread, and the other can be found simply by typing UFC into Google News, or going to ufc.com. It's not that hard.Wyldfire said:I don't watch fighting...not my thing. And I didn't know the names of the two guys...so I described what it was about them that stood out to me...excessive body hair and the gawd awful checkered speedos.
*note...I am VERY shallow...so I notice how the guy looks, not his name or how good he does or doesn't fight, lol.
You're quite welcome. I would imagine his ankle is messed up pretty bad based on the way he fell on it. Feet just don't turn so that the toes are pointing behind a person. It looked like it hurt really badly.Rata Blanca said:Thanks for the link Wyldfire.
Gabriel Gonzaga dominated the whole fight it was amazing. I wonder if Cro-cop's ankle was broken of something
Yeah, I could have...but I don't like fighting so I really don't care who was fighting or what the name is of the organization they fight with. I just know I don't like excessive body hair or speedos, lol.MetalFortress said:Well, one of the names was right here in this very thread, and the other can be found simply by typing UFC into Google News, or going to ufc.com. It's not that hard.
That don't matter anymore cuz Pride is part of UFC now NEWB! Crocop is overrated, FEDOR EMILIENKO IS SO MUCH BETTER 24-1! Pride fighters are good they just have to get used to the UFC rules cuz it's different. Chuck Liddel and Anderson Silva were both PRIDE FIGHTERS! Now they're both UFC. I know that Rampage Jackson is going to win over Chuck Liddel though, he is a better striker and is stronger. Crocop has a weak chin and he didn't fight hard at all, I'm thinking he's going to retire soon.Skel said:Pride fighters might be overrated but crocop is not. Its just that the UFC fighters are underrated.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
e-lie said:The link does not work by the way crocop is awesome but this loss was an upset but hey that other guy has to fight couture good luck![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.