"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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critique my new routine.

spesmilitis

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My schedule doesn't give me that much time to workout tues-thurs (probably around 15 minutes) , so i've been considering this new routine:

monday: squat/ glut-ham

tues or weds: weighted pull ups

weds or thurs: shoulder press

friday:dead/hypers

sat: chest press

sun: d-rows

the workouts tues/thurs/sat would only last 10-15 minutes (about 3-4 sets). the squats and deadlifts days would last around 30-40 minutes. Basically, this is all the exersices I do over a 3 day split spread out over the week.

I have these questions: How much stress do dl's put on the shoulders and middle/ upper back? How far apart should I place my shoulder press/d-rows/w-pullups from the dl.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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spesmilitis

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Whats the advantage of the two day split?

After squats and deads, I don't have much energy left. By spreading the exersices out, I would be fresher for each exersice and thus more likely to pull a personal best. At least that is my rationale for the split posted above.

For a two day split, I came up with

day 1:
deads, w-pullups, hypers, d-rows

day 2:
squats, chest press, glut-hams, shoulder press.
 

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Looking a lot better.

Do 2 days so you can go in, give it your all for those two days, and have more time to recover, which is especially needed on a tight schedule
 

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I also do grappling 4x a week monday-friday. Would that have an affect on my strength training routine?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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even more reason to do a 2xday a week.

Any form of other training will cut into your recovery and hinder your strength if it's strenuous enough. however, while I don't know what grappling involves, I'd say your strength training would benefit it.. try it and see.

just remember, if you want to be a grappler, just do grappling. if you want to be a bodybuilder, just do bodybuilding. if you want to be a powerlifter, just do powerlifting..

otherwise you're a jack of all trades, but master of none
 

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grappling (bjj) involves a lot of muscular endurance, so strength training definatly helps.

I want to be primarily a grappler, but I also want to weigh 150-170 eventually.
 

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never mind on the upper body stuff on friday. My arms have not recoved from my 4 days of grappling. I forgot to take into account grappling takes a lot our of my arms. I"ll have to do upperbody atleast on sunday-tuesdays so my arms have time to recover.
 
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