"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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creepy adding neighbor to facebook?

blackwolf

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not saying i'm going to do it but i am curious if this is a creepy thing to do? i know if a girl added me saying she was my neighbor i would be more than happy to accept!

but anyway, the landlord of where im staying lives literally behind my house, you can see the house from looking out my window... anyway they have a pretty hot daughter but shes six years younger than me and we've only said hi once or twice. i found her facebook cause a couple people i know, know her. just out of curiousity.. would it be creepy to add her saying "hey neighbor!"

lol. im not going to though cause even if she did it would probably make things weird. ive spoken to her dad many times, had a few chats. but not lately.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lorekeeper

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I never add anyone to facebook, they always add me.

the most i do is msg them "hey, are you so-and-so?" most of the time with a joke, they then add me.
 

DJDamage

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Don't do it.

If you don't have the balls to just go up to her, chat her up and gauge her IOI's to see if she is interested then you won't be able to do so from just adding her on facebook.

Adding a girl you barley know is a behaviour which she might interpret as borderline stalking.
 

Kailex

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Landlord's daughter.

I hope you're already looking for a new apartment if you are going to pursue this.

Forget whether it's creepy or not to add her on Facebook, she's your LANDLORD'S DAUGHTER. I wouldn't date someone in my same apartment complex, let alone be a tenant at a place whose owner's daughter's ass I'm tapping.

Lose-Lose situation.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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