"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Creeping out a girl

Vercingetorix777

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Hi. I ran into this girl the other night with high interest. She was in one of my classes last semester. Lokking back I should've asked her out then. Do you think she'd be creeped out if i just run into her after my class Tuesday? Her class is like 40 feet away and let's out at the same time. I don't know if she's seen me before there though I've seen her myself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BLUEox117

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Originally posted by Vercingetorix777
Hi. I ran into this girl the other night with high interest. She was in one of my classes last semester. Lokking back I should've asked her out then. Do you think she'd be creeped out if i just run into her after my class Tuesday? Her class is like 40 feet away and let's out at the same time. I don't know if she's seen me before there though I've seen her myself.
vercingetorix
when will you transform into caesar,
be your own man and start doing things, telll us it worked, instead of asking us !
 

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Originally posted by Vercingetorix777
Hi. I ran into this girl the other night with high interest. She was in one of my classes last semester. Lokking back I should've asked her out then. Do you think she'd be creeped out if i just run into her after my class Tuesday? Her class is like 40 feet away and let's out at the same time. I don't know if she's seen me before there though I've seen her myself.
SHe might get upset if you just run into, I mean you'll probably knock her over lol;)
 
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