So I've got a myspace page and I only have a few pictures and a few brief descriptions of what I'm about but I don't seem to be able to intrigue that many girls on there and when I do, it's not for very long. I'm not a perfect looking guy but it seems like I'm getting ignored a lot more than I expected. And when I send messages to these girls it's pretty straightforward (i.e."Hi, how are you? I was just browsing and your profile really intrigued me. you seem like fun and look stunning in the pics. I'd like to know more. what are you up to?"). Maybe I'm just not being smooth or funny enough? I feel like some of the humor I do use at times is too over the top for these girls, which is disheartening because I feel like if I take out all the humor, I come across like I have no personality and therefore sound lame to the lamest degree. Can someone tell me their opinion....Does my profile/pics make me appear bland? myspace.com/rolandbozz
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Thats a bad message to send in my opinion. It's really putting the girl on a pedestal by saying she looks stunning in the pics. Don't mention her looks.FLstud83 said:So I've got a myspace page and I only have a few pictures and a few brief descriptions of what I'm about but I don't seem to be able to intrigue that many girls on there and when I do, it's not for very long. I'm not a perfect looking guy but it seems like I'm getting ignored a lot more than I expected. And when I send messages to these girls it's pretty straightforward (i.e."Hi, how are you? I was just browsing and your profile really intrigued me. you seem like fun and look stunning in the pics. I'd like to know more. what are you up to?"). Maybe I'm just not being smooth or funny enough? I feel like some of the humor I do use at times is too over the top for these girls, which is disheartening because I feel like if I take out all the humor, I come across like I have no personality and therefore sound lame to the lamest degree. Can someone tell me their opinion....Does my profile/pics make me appear bland? myspace.com/rolandbozz
Change your mindset.
As far as you're now concerned she's just another good looking girl (one of many) and you're looking to just chat first and see if you like her. Make sure they get that message!
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You just have to come at them with something different. The same thing was happening to me. Most of these good looking girls have guys who come on their page daily and just ask em "Hey! Whats up! How are you!" So doing so your just being another guy and sometime they may respond but even if they do they wont talk to you for long because they dont find you interesting...your not different to them, they could get the same pleasure from any other person.
So you gotta interest em...make them want to talk to you...hit em with something funny, maybe even a neg.. It works online just as it does in person...(atleast for me) you just have to be different. Dont go giving them compliments just like every other guy on myspace...and dont leave them picture comments off the rip either, they get real ego boosts when guys call them sexy and beautiful in every picture they take, and if you go doing that shes going to think as if she already knows u want her and if ur just another guy shes not going to want you because she now feels as if she has greater value than you...believe me they already have enough anyway...let them earn things...even if you do comment a pic, dont comment her beauty...there is always a flaw in every picture...just point it out and show her that shes actually not that perfect 10 that these guys are claiming...but do it in a funny, playful way...most of the time they respond and they are amused...and then before you know it, these females will be constantly on your page, maybe for even no reason...just check out your profile views...
So you gotta interest em...make them want to talk to you...hit em with something funny, maybe even a neg.. It works online just as it does in person...(atleast for me) you just have to be different. Dont go giving them compliments just like every other guy on myspace...and dont leave them picture comments off the rip either, they get real ego boosts when guys call them sexy and beautiful in every picture they take, and if you go doing that shes going to think as if she already knows u want her and if ur just another guy shes not going to want you because she now feels as if she has greater value than you...believe me they already have enough anyway...let them earn things...even if you do comment a pic, dont comment her beauty...there is always a flaw in every picture...just point it out and show her that shes actually not that perfect 10 that these guys are claiming...but do it in a funny, playful way...most of the time they respond and they are amused...and then before you know it, these females will be constantly on your page, maybe for even no reason...just check out your profile views...
you guys have a really good point actually....it's just that that kind of straightforward message has worked and it requires little thought so I guess that's why I've held onto it. lol But you're right.....so did anyone look at my profile itself? if so, what was the impression you got? Just trying to be as intriguing as possible without saying too much or appearing too bland.
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Say, "Your pictures suck and you actually seem a bit boring... or at least not as fun as me. I could teach you though...maybe. Write back or keep reading the same boring messages everyone else is sending you. Either way have a great day!"
What was said above is correct, you literally get nowhere complimenting girls on their pictures on myspace besides a "thank you" unless you look like brad pitt. But then again, it all depends on the girl.
Look at it like this, in person it's different because you're actually in front of her, talking to her and connecting with her. With hot girls on social networking sites, they log-on, open their inbox and have 20 messages saying, "You look good! I just wanna get to know ya! How are ya! etc etc" You think the girl is hooking up with every single one of them? They KNOW they look good.
Let the other guys be her ego boost, you on the other hand play your cards different.
What was said above is correct, you literally get nowhere complimenting girls on their pictures on myspace besides a "thank you" unless you look like brad pitt. But then again, it all depends on the girl.
Look at it like this, in person it's different because you're actually in front of her, talking to her and connecting with her. With hot girls on social networking sites, they log-on, open their inbox and have 20 messages saying, "You look good! I just wanna get to know ya! How are ya! etc etc" You think the girl is hooking up with every single one of them? They KNOW they look good.
Let the other guys be her ego boost, you on the other hand play your cards different.
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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The real humor in this is that there is actually an air of truth to it."Your pictures suck and you actually seem a bit boring... or at least not as fun as me. I could teach you though...maybe. Write back or keep reading the same boring messages everyone else is sending you. Either way have a great day!"
You would literally get far more of reaction with this, than what you planned on writing.
I have done pretty well with online dating and given advice on it dozens of times. Think about what you wrote? Would you use that crap with a girl you met in public? No, it's totally AFC. Online isn't that different. It also sounds like a cut and paste message, which girls bemoan about constantly.
I am not gonna help you make you're page, but I will give you some messaging tips.
1) Be funny and if you can pull it off, witty (I say pull it off, because if she doesn't get it, it will bomb)
2) Make a comment about something on her page, personalize it.
3) Just like in real life, don't make it sound like an approach. Just make humorous comment, that leaves her something to respond to, but in no way hits on her or expresses interest (seriously, don't express interest, the fact that you messaged her has done this-that's enough)
4) Don't make it too long-a small paragraph at best. Enough to show you gave it a few seconds of thought, but not enough to make her think she has to write you a novel back (plus it saves you time if she isn't interested)
5) Two messages you should never send. Short and pointless "What's up" "Wanna chat"... AND commenting on her physical appearance. They get this ad nausea, it's completely AFC, even more so online.
6) Never send to messages in row unanswered, unless several some serious time has passed (at least 3 days). An even then, this is questionable. Meeting online is easy, so low IL is an instant NEXT.
7) NEVER number close. Guys try this all the time. She should want to give her #, but if she doesn't, give her yours and act like it's no big deal if she calls or not. DO IT BEFORE the emails go on to long.
8) At the same time, don't spend too much time chatting or emailing. Most women lose interest, and frankly, so do I. If she has a medium to high IL, I'd say 6 or 7 emails should do it. BEFORE she loses interest, say something like "Hey, this emailing is wearing me out, here's my number if you wanna get to know each other a little better." DONT ask her to call you, and DONT make a big deal out of it.
That should be enough to get you started.