"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pooparu

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Alright guys, I've got another question that I think might affect more than just me (if it doesn't all well).

I'm sure you all meet girls that are really cool, pretty attractive, whatever, but you actually wanna be FRIENDS with. Well what's been happening lately is they end up getting attracted just like girls I'm gaming (I guess since I've left the, "Sarge on" mindset and mroe just like, "Have fun" mindset I'm constantly in game mode I guess), and what ends up happening is I treat them just like one of the guys or cool girls, joke on them, have fun, etc. Sometimes they end up geting upset at a joke or something and then really get upset, and this is where I'm at an impass.

1. My natural reaction now is just to go something like, "awww you're having a tantrum, that's cute. This is where I apologize right?

2. Alot of times I guess ths builds more attraction, but they also get mad, and sometimes its not that "fake" anger, I think they might really b offended.

Now here I don't think I owe an apology at all, its more like they want my approval/validation but I'm not out to make them my girl, I just wanna have fun. So what do you guys out there with experience with this do (please no KBJs, no offense to yall, but I need good advice), do you just continue as normal? I'm not afraid to walk away, but at the same time, I don't want evry girl just attracted to me, I want friends that are actually girls for pivots and for just fun, but it seems like this is going to be harder and harder.

Any advice on making females your friends, dealing with situations like this, whatever, is really appreciated, thanks in advance bros.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You don't need to make girls your friends. In fact, these girls might see you as a jerk, but at least they see you as something. You'd much rather be that ****y bastard that all the girls are competing for rather than that nice guy all the girls are laughing at behing closed doors.
 

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You wanna be just friends with a girl? Well then you have to leave all the seduction behind with this girl from the beginning on, no sarging, no gaming, talk to her like you would talk with a guy. It must be clear for her you two will be no more then friends. So no hidden clues to her or romantic words.

But don't expect every girl to like this behaviour, some may blow you off because they don't want you as a friend. It is like making friendships with guy's, you can't just chose your friends, you have to fit to each other. You should see this "female friend" as your best friend, but then with t*ts and a p*ssy.

Hope this was a good piece of advice

Greetz from Holland:up:
 

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think about how you game a girl andhow you make friends, theres a difference youve got the gaming personality already, with girls you just wanna be friends you just shouldnt use the CF as much, like if she gets upset apologize then youd be going the friend way instad of using more CF on her, cut down on the attractive things (as awful as that sounds :p )
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yea that does make more sense.

Hwoever, I find girls respond more positively and its easier to know them when I'm in gaming them (which is now ALL the time, its harder to talk normal than to just be in constant DJ mode), rather than trying the usual friends thing, becuase many think that all guys have a hidden agenda.

Its gonna be hard not to game a girl because its just part of me now, most stuff I don't consciously think of, plus I'm kinda woried I'm gonna start relapsing. Maybe I should just LJBF girls are drop huge hints at the beginning, what do you think?
 
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