"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Crazy Strict Parents

moldingcheese

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I got together with this girl and I can tell that she really likes me. The problem is that she has really strict parents who do everything to make sure she doesn't get too close to guys.
She had to lie to her parents to go ice skating with me and we can rarely see each other. It's really frustrating that I can only see her in school. I half want to next her but should I break up with a girl just because her parents are strict? It's not her fault...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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B-Lemond

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On one hand they are making things easier for your seduction, because you seem adventurous and dangerous because she's not supposed to be with you. On the other hand they are making things difficult. You can rarely see this girl. The best thing for you to do is have more options. Get some more girls in your stable. So when she can actually get out of the house to go see you, you'll look good in her eyes cause she's sacrificing something for you so, you are obviously an investment. Plus, when she can't go out with you, you won't be depressed or down on your game because you always have your other girls to hang out with. Nice!
 

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Try going out as a group so her parents will feel OK. If worst comes to worst, try talking to the parents when they pick up their little girl. Just try to talk to them when ever you see them.
 

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I have to admit it's frustrating me alot so I agree that I need to get more girls in my "stable". But do you mean get more girlfriends or just getting friends that are girls?
 

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Get more girls in general, its up to you to decide wear to go from there. Personally I would try to lay the mac down on these other honeys...PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT! The point of getting more girls is so you don't get obsessed over just one. Open up your options.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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We are kind of getting estranged right now coz we rarely see each other at school and she can't ever come out. Over the summer we will both be gone so we won't comunicate at all except maybe by email.
Is there anything I can do before we both go off to vacation?
 

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You're in a tought place man. I used to date a girl with the same type of parents. Now that its been over for almost two years, it was fun but mostly I put too much energy into it when we only hung out once in a great while. Plus, she didn't put out which totally blew.

In my opinion you should just go out and meet new girls. In the event that she does go out somewhere, tell her to call you. In the mean time, go hang out with the new girls. Looks to me that it just wont work out.
 

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Are you saying I should try to get another girlfriend? I don't like the idea of having more than one gf. If word leaks out my reputation would be ruined. Should I just next my gf and look for another girl?
I m thinking that once I can drive next year then we can sneak out. Has anyone been in a secret relationship? Tell me about it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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moldingcheese

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What do you DJs do during the summer? No school and no girls to meet. Are you supposed to keep a stash of girls' numbers to call during the summer?
 
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