"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Crazy Strict Parents

moldingcheese

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I got together with this girl and I can tell that she really likes me. The problem is that she has really strict parents who do everything to make sure she doesn't get too close to guys.
She had to lie to her parents to go ice skating with me and we can rarely see each other. It's really frustrating that I can only see her in school. I half want to next her but should I break up with a girl just because her parents are strict? It's not her fault...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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On one hand they are making things easier for your seduction, because you seem adventurous and dangerous because she's not supposed to be with you. On the other hand they are making things difficult. You can rarely see this girl. The best thing for you to do is have more options. Get some more girls in your stable. So when she can actually get out of the house to go see you, you'll look good in her eyes cause she's sacrificing something for you so, you are obviously an investment. Plus, when she can't go out with you, you won't be depressed or down on your game because you always have your other girls to hang out with. Nice!
 

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Try going out as a group so her parents will feel OK. If worst comes to worst, try talking to the parents when they pick up their little girl. Just try to talk to them when ever you see them.
 

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I have to admit it's frustrating me alot so I agree that I need to get more girls in my "stable". But do you mean get more girlfriends or just getting friends that are girls?
 

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Get more girls in general, its up to you to decide wear to go from there. Personally I would try to lay the mac down on these other honeys...PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT! The point of getting more girls is so you don't get obsessed over just one. Open up your options.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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We are kind of getting estranged right now coz we rarely see each other at school and she can't ever come out. Over the summer we will both be gone so we won't comunicate at all except maybe by email.
Is there anything I can do before we both go off to vacation?
 

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You're in a tought place man. I used to date a girl with the same type of parents. Now that its been over for almost two years, it was fun but mostly I put too much energy into it when we only hung out once in a great while. Plus, she didn't put out which totally blew.

In my opinion you should just go out and meet new girls. In the event that she does go out somewhere, tell her to call you. In the mean time, go hang out with the new girls. Looks to me that it just wont work out.
 

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Are you saying I should try to get another girlfriend? I don't like the idea of having more than one gf. If word leaks out my reputation would be ruined. Should I just next my gf and look for another girl?
I m thinking that once I can drive next year then we can sneak out. Has anyone been in a secret relationship? Tell me about it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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moldingcheese

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What do you DJs do during the summer? No school and no girls to meet. Are you supposed to keep a stash of girls' numbers to call during the summer?
 
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