"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Crazy **** going down with my Ex

judoguy

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sooo I had a real bad day at work and wrote my facebook status something along the lines of "Done with this job, Freedom at last "....Not fully commiting to quitting, just putting it out there as a status.

Anyway... after putting this as my status...My ex calls me ! My roomate picks up and goes... "hey i think its April, my (GF's name is Veronica)... then I say.. ask her who it is.. he asks and she replies with... Veronica...his ex gf !... I tell him to tell her I dont want to talk and go back to sleep.

20 minutes later my friggin mother calls me... asking me if I quit my job. She then informs me that my ex called my mom crying saying that she is scared she is the reason that I quit my job.

Are you kidding me !... This ***** dumps me... I break contact with her and she still thinks she is in my life influencing my decisions !?!?

Get over yourself *****... MY world doesn't revolve around princess Veronica anymore !

Anyway how would you guys handle this? I mean now im getting *****ed at by two women... my mom and my ex

**** hahahaha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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piranha45

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she did it for no reason other than to get your attention. you cut it off, and now she's resorting to childish attempts at regaining it. don't ever answer when she calls you, and dont ever call her.
 

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oh yea i forgot to mention... we are not facebook friends so she is somehow spying on my account.. possibly through mutual friends...
 

piranha45

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and tell your mom that you hate your ex and don't ever want to hear from her again.
 

Trader

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Funny how *stalkers* are usually thought of as being guys

Girls are just as crazy - this is crazy - yes cut her off COMPLETELY
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Ambition Now

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Thats how egocentric people behave, they think everything that happens on their surroundings must be linked to them in someway...
 

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Delete your facebook and go get in a fight, what the hell kind of men are we?
 

Luthor Rex

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Ambition Now said:
Thats how egocentric people behave, they think everything that happens on their surroundings must be linked to them in someway...
It's these kinds of delusional people who also tend to be the most self confidant. Which makes them even more impossible to deal with.

:crazy:
 

SXS

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Dont try to cut her off, that doesnt work.

Instead, say that you cant live without her, that you cant work, you cant eat, you love her, and you will do anything to get her back, and will start calling her everyday.

She will move to another city.
 

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Well this is a good example of how I say even cutting off a woman doesn't necessarily send her the message you intended. She just rationalizes that you still long for her anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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decades

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go No Contact.
 

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this is powerful. She managed to call you and when you don't want to talk, she called your mother? Does your mother not know that she dumbbed you?
 

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AAAgent said:
my bpd has been emailing me, messaging me, and AIMing me for the past 7 months on and off. I haven't responded to her yet but i guess she doesn't get the picture.

not to mention she's bad a bf those 7 whole months after we broke up.
Thats because if she is BPD, she lives in her reality not yours or anyone elses. Meaning, your logic is irrelevant and overruled by her whims/justification/perception lol.

Hence the more trouble than they are worth tag sadly....
 
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