Crash and Burn..please help!!

[Sweep]

This girl and I have been friends for a while. She comes over last night at midnight and after talking for a while--we have good rapport--she comes up to my room to smoke with me on my bed. I'm a musician and she asks to hear some of my music. I play the acoustic: according to her my voice is sexy and my songs are the type that would easily get a girl in bed. Next come the back rubs. I spend a while on her first. She lies on her stomach and I'm strattling her ass. We switch and she suggests I take my shirt off; I do. I get back on top and I suggest she does the same; she does. I tell her I don't like her bra in my way and she tells me I can unhook it but "that's all." We joke about her side boobs and she tells me that if it keeps me entertained I can keep touching them (I was already).

Eventually, I kiss her shoulderblade once, softly. She says, "well," in a soft and slightly confused voice. I do it again later and she lets out a gentle exhale. I kiss her cheek--she's smiling. I kiss both side boobs and when I move up to her cheek and say, "I'm gonna need you to turn your head a little for this one" she gets all awkward and says, "oh..no." I'm able to finish off the night without being too much of a stiff and I manage to avoid asking "why" and when she leaves she gives me a big hug, says i'm a sweet sweet boy and apologizes for the mixed signals.

What went wrong?

 

[Desdinova]

Do a search for "Anti-Slvt Defense".

Either that's what you encountered, or she just considers you a "friend".

 

[Sweep]

I figured as much since she was already practically topless when I tried to kiss her, but if that is the case, what do I do now--this girl likes me and will probably still want to hang out with me. Correction: as I was writing that last sentence, she called me to invite me to her mother's barbeque. I know I should give it a rest for a little but I can't say no to free food and booze. And if she does just consider me a friend, how do I change that. Aren't all girls accessible?

 

[DJDamage]

Somtimes you can't conquer the girl in one night.

Just like an invading army you need to conquer new territory. Try to recreate the same situation you had with her before but instead of smoke go for a drink or two. If she again rebuffs your advances and won't let you go farther then forget about her.

Go to the BBQ and pretend like nothing has happened. Enjoy the food and the drinks.

 

[Desdinova]

If you're in the friend zone, you'd be better off to just forget about her and move on.

Unfortunately, it's difficult to tell from your post exactly what this woman thinks about you. Give her another shot and see how far you can get. Sometimes a little bit of patience is all you need to go all the way.

Go to the barbeque and try isolating her from the mother. Take her out on a date after the barbeque is finished. And don't drink too much - keep your head on straight for this.

 

[socalrunner]

If you were put on the friends list try the Ganji games