"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Crash and Burn..please help!!

Sweep

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This girl and I have been friends for a while. She comes over last night at midnight and after talking for a while--we have good rapport--she comes up to my room to smoke with me on my bed. I'm a musician and she asks to hear some of my music. I play the acoustic: according to her my voice is sexy and my songs are the type that would easily get a girl in bed. Next come the back rubs. I spend a while on her first. She lies on her stomach and I'm strattling her ass. We switch and she suggests I take my shirt off; I do. I get back on top and I suggest she does the same; she does. I tell her I don't like her bra in my way and she tells me I can unhook it but "that's all." We joke about her side boobs and she tells me that if it keeps me entertained I can keep touching them (I was already).

Eventually, I kiss her shoulderblade once, softly. She says, "well," in a soft and slightly confused voice. I do it again later and she lets out a gentle exhale. I kiss her cheek--she's smiling. I kiss both side boobs and when I move up to her cheek and say, "I'm gonna need you to turn your head a little for this one" she gets all awkward and says, "oh..no." I'm able to finish off the night without being too much of a stiff and I manage to avoid asking "why" and when she leaves she gives me a big hug, says i'm a sweet sweet boy and apologizes for the mixed signals.

What went wrong?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I figured as much since she was already practically topless when I tried to kiss her, but if that is the case, what do I do now--this girl likes me and will probably still want to hang out with me. Correction: as I was writing that last sentence, she called me to invite me to her mother's barbeque. I know I should give it a rest for a little but I can't say no to free food and booze. And if she does just consider me a friend, how do I change that. Aren't all girls accessible?
 

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Somtimes you can't conquer the girl in one night.

Just like an invading army you need to conquer new territory. Try to recreate the same situation you had with her before but instead of smoke go for a drink or two. If she again rebuffs your advances and won't let you go farther then forget about her.

Go to the BBQ and pretend like nothing has happened. Enjoy the food and the drinks.
 

Desdinova

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If you're in the friend zone, you'd be better off to just forget about her and move on.

Unfortunately, it's difficult to tell from your post exactly what this woman thinks about you. Give her another shot and see how far you can get. Sometimes a little bit of patience is all you need to go all the way.

Go to the barbeque and try isolating her from the mother. Take her out on a date after the barbeque is finished. And don't drink too much - keep your head on straight for this.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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