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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Crash and burn last night, or no?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hm, well the girl does seem to have a few issues. What she did is something that I would figure would happen between close friends or possibly close boyfriend/girlfriends, especially since what she did was extremely rude if it was a first date with you. So at least she feels she can be honest with you.
If she thinks you're hot and offers another date, then I still think you're in the clear. Just be sure to pick a good movie next time.
I think you played your role fine, there's definitely something wacky about this girl in particular. When I see a crappy movie with a date, we can usually finish it and end up joking about the bad parts and laugh after the whole thing.
She didn't end the date on a high note, but I'd just wait and see what her next move is. If she's interested in you and ends a date that early mid-movie, she should be the one initiating the next date if she is still interested. You'd do the same if you were interested in someone and broke a date in the middle.
I say sit back and relax and see where it goes.
If she thinks you're hot and offers another date, then I still think you're in the clear. Just be sure to pick a good movie next time.
I think you played your role fine, there's definitely something wacky about this girl in particular. When I see a crappy movie with a date, we can usually finish it and end up joking about the bad parts and laugh after the whole thing.
She didn't end the date on a high note, but I'd just wait and see what her next move is. If she's interested in you and ends a date that early mid-movie, she should be the one initiating the next date if she is still interested. You'd do the same if you were interested in someone and broke a date in the middle.
I say sit back and relax and see where it goes.
CrombieStyle
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Sounds right.
I'll probably see her tonight at this party- so I'll talk her up and see how she reacts.
I had intended to call next week to set up the 2nd date. Should I just wait back and force her to offer the next one?
I'll probably see her tonight at this party- so I'll talk her up and see how she reacts.
I had intended to call next week to set up the 2nd date. Should I just wait back and force her to offer the next one?
Well, I think you should judge how she acts at this party tonight. If she acts like she's still interested then I don't really see anything wrong with calling her up and setting up that second date. If she already counter-offered, you can just take her up on that offer, and it's all good.
I don't see any hurt in waiting about a week to see if she brings up her offer in that time. If she doesn't, then go ahead and try to take her up on it. When she offered, it showed her interest in a second date, that should be enough for you to make the next move without worry. Just becareful if she pulls another stunt like the one before.
I don't see any hurt in waiting about a week to see if she brings up her offer in that time. If she doesn't, then go ahead and try to take her up on it. When she offered, it showed her interest in a second date, that should be enough for you to make the next move without worry. Just becareful if she pulls another stunt like the one before.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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She had something on her mind - All the signs were there. The folded arms and nervous posture, and the impatient attitude along with the immediate departure - she was all tied up in her mind about something, that's all. Sit back, relax, and let her make the next move. In the meantime, occupy yourself with something. You're a DJ - you've got plenty of chicks to be calling . But remember - it's her move, if she doesn't act, NEXT her. You played your role nicely, by the way.
. But remember - it's her move, if she doesn't act, NEXT her. You played your role nicely, by the way.CrombieStyle
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Re: Re: Crash and burn last night, or no?
I totally agree, but when you live in bum Fack maine there's little to pick from.