Well ive been in a crappy mood about women lately. Ive been seeking a relationship, havent found one yet. Last one i had was of a real *****. She told me id never meet anyone that would like me as much as she did. And she has a long term relationship, after she broke up with me. So i feel even more like a loser as shes still right. What can i do to make myself feel less in this slump?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Crappy mood.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
uh....don't believe her? Duh.
Damn dude if she got into your head that deep....then it's possible for ol' AFK to change your thinking around over the net despite my awesome powers.
Go do a search for Brazilian Blues Boy's post titled, "Happiness." That gets me......well, happy.
Damn dude if she got into your head that deep....then it's possible for ol' AFK to change your thinking around over the net despite my awesome powers.
Go do a search for Brazilian Blues Boy's post titled, "Happiness." That gets me......well, happy.
was interesting, but duno if it made me feel any better lol.Originally posted by AFK Protector
uh....don't believe her? Duh.
Damn dude if she got into your head that deep....then it's possible for ol' AFK to change your thinking around over the net despite my awesome powers.
Go do a search for Brazilian Blues Boy's post titled, "Happiness." That gets me......well, happy.
spidersense
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does anyone else think it's funny when guys hand their balls over to women so easily? I know, I know, that's mean and they just don't know any better.... but I never said I was a nice guy
{{Supressing laughter}}
I'm here to help though...
to feel less in the slump, start talking to every woman you see, at first you will get a lot of negative responses, but you will also get some positive ones. it's a numbers thing, some may and some may not like you. over time though you will start to develop the attitudes and beliefs that really attractive guys have. and you will get a whole lot more positive responses, even from those women that aren't looking for a guy because of whatever reason, they'll still find you attractive and visually show you that.
For me, I found that after I started having more success with women, my self-esteem shifted, and I started thinking a lot of positivly... it even pulled me out of a 2 or 3 year depression I was in.
there is no magic pill, but there are accelerators of you really feel like you need them, their called books, there are a ton out there that can help you out.
{{Supressing laughter}}
I'm here to help though...
to feel less in the slump, start talking to every woman you see, at first you will get a lot of negative responses, but you will also get some positive ones. it's a numbers thing, some may and some may not like you. over time though you will start to develop the attitudes and beliefs that really attractive guys have. and you will get a whole lot more positive responses, even from those women that aren't looking for a guy because of whatever reason, they'll still find you attractive and visually show you that.
For me, I found that after I started having more success with women, my self-esteem shifted, and I started thinking a lot of positivly... it even pulled me out of a 2 or 3 year depression I was in.
there is no magic pill, but there are accelerators of you really feel like you need them, their called books, there are a ton out there that can help you out.
ShizamDaMan
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There's no easy way to say this man, but you're going to have to stop being a *****, grab your balls, and go on with life. It's a fact: **** happens.
Take this Christmas break. I was a hermit. I worked out at 5:30am, went to my job at 9am, got out at 6PM, and messed around until 10PM when I'd go to sleep.
Last week I got a respiratory infection and was on the couch for 7 days. My dad had been yelling at me for 2 weeks over a C in chemistry and then my parents decided to get divorced on Christmas eve. Christmas day was spent yelling at my parents and feeling ****ty.
I spent New Year's Eve alone in my basement. Now I have to figure out how to pay for the rest of college since I'll be in the poor house.
I'm done feeling sorry for myself. Believe me, I wish the only problems I had to deal with were women. Now I'm picking my **** up and getting my life back together. You should too.
Take this Christmas break. I was a hermit. I worked out at 5:30am, went to my job at 9am, got out at 6PM, and messed around until 10PM when I'd go to sleep.
Last week I got a respiratory infection and was on the couch for 7 days. My dad had been yelling at me for 2 weeks over a C in chemistry and then my parents decided to get divorced on Christmas eve. Christmas day was spent yelling at my parents and feeling ****ty.
I spent New Year's Eve alone in my basement. Now I have to figure out how to pay for the rest of college since I'll be in the poor house.
I'm done feeling sorry for myself. Believe me, I wish the only problems I had to deal with were women. Now I'm picking my **** up and getting my life back together. You should too.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.