"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Coworker hitting on me?

Meisterman

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How would you handle a situation of a hot coworker flirting/hitting on you at a part time job? Last time I got involved with a girl who I worked with it ended badly, although I'm only working there until my second semester starts in January, then I'll be back for spring break + all of summer.

It seems hard because I know I could probably fvck her but it almost doesn't seem worth it since she's a coworker. I think maybe I'm better off letting it go and pursuing girls elsewhere, while spinning plates back on campus instead. Just wanted to hear your guys take on it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sylvester the cat

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Co-workers are low hanging fruit. I know of one couple I work with who met through work and married. Im sensing more out of laziness and convenience more than anything else. Although they tried to convince everyone otherwise with their dream wedding which the HUSBAND, not the wife, has plastered all over his work space.
 

stevo

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I'd say fcuk her. I do it all the time.


You separate work from seks.


At work, dont even interact with her, if you used to after fcuking cut all the physical interactions, only converse through text/call.


My qualification process though is to make sure she's really with it before I initiate anything. She's flirting back heavily, we've slightly "mistakenly" kino'd and she's still forthcoming then yeah we're gravy from that point.


You also have to remember, it is strictly fcuking, no emotions. Dont encourage it and dont catch it.
 

Masculinity

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Meisterman said:
How would you handle a situation of a hot coworker flirting/hitting on you at a part time job? Last time I got involved with a girl who I worked with it ended badly.
I think you've answered your own question already. To add to the topic, though, seeing women from work usually doesn't end well because women are emotional beings. Furthermore, she can easily accuse you of sexual harassment. When it comes to anything related to abuse, unfortunately and shamefully, a woman's "word" carries more weight than a man's word, even if you are totally innocent. There more women than men in most places. I am confident that you can find another one.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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