"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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cow: Being Thin Didn't Make Me Happy, But Being "Fat" Does

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You know, I get why people bust their ass to get a six pack, realize it's not worth it, and then give in and get fat. So long as she's not on welfare, or spitting out crack babies, who really cares.

What I DON'T really get is how people somehow turn her into some kind of frikking hero.

She's just one human out of several billion who made a rational choice based on her circumstances and her own subjective values.

She didn't cure cancer or find the missing neutrinos.
 

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taiyuu_otoko said:
You know, I get why people bust their ass to get a six pack, realize it's not worth it, and then give in and get fat. So long as she's not on welfare, or spitting out crack babies, who really cares.
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Very much agree with you. I just don't understand why some people feel the need to try to get people to be like them. If you have issues with the way she looks, don't read her story. More importantly, don't go searching for one. As someone famously said "just do you".
 

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From the second article:

A big belly and thick thighs can and DO get in the way during plain ol’ missionary
Nature is weeding out your genes. If you're having issues having sex, then nature is telling you NOT to reproduce. Regardless of whether your genes make you fat or your stupidity does, humankind doesn't need those genes passed down.
 

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It's one thing to not care about having a sixpack, but it's another entirely to not take any control or care over one's self - and then be expected to be looked up to because of it...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The article pissed me off.

Some thoughts:

1. She's not taking into the account of her own health and how her health affects others. Is she fine stuffing her face and clogging her arteries and dying of a sudden heart attack leaving all five kids to her husband to look after? Seems pretty selfish to me.

2. What kind of example is she setting for her kids? That eating pizza and cake every 3 days is totally fine as her kids get bullied and lose their self-esteem for being overweight?

3. She doesn't give a sh!t about her husband. At all. You think he's enjoying sleeping with someone obese? Probably not. A lot resentment is built, consciously and sub-consciously when someone lets themselves go. How would she feel if her husband decided to gain 65 lbs of fat? I'm sure she'd change her tune really quick if that happened.

4. This woman loved the attention that men gave her at grocery stores, dr. appointments, etc. Now it's not happening because she's fat and she's trying spin it that's she's happy anyways. Lies. This woman secretly hates herself, she's crazy to boot (did you catch the bipolar reference?) and she's trying to win over the herds of fat women who feel embarrassed by what has become of their physiques and who will back her on her poor decisions.

5. It's not that hard to eat healthy - and you can do it very cheaply. She's just lazy and not willing to tackle her issues head on.
 
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