She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
yes, also if i do, i think i have some kind of chaser effect like i did with alcohol,
Alcohol is not good to mix with stress or anxiety, it amplifies it. Do sex with a clean healthy living. A couple of drinks a week, if that and no more than one cup of coffee a day. Remove excess caffeine and any stimulants.
You have a few addictive behaviors. They are triggered. Addictive behaviors indicate a loss of self control. Meaning you will have additional self control by removing them. But trust the alcohol and stress or anxiety are terrible to mix.
fully agree I've been with narcotics anonymous for 2 years, and ive been clean for 6 months, I attract 2 points up when i'm sober aswell, so its deffo a good thing. I shall now aim to remove the others, Ive proven many a time i cant stop when i start, even if its just caffeine
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
We need to feel connected. Connected to a bigger community experiencing the same things as us.
Get on a fitness lifestyle and those items will be incompatable with it, you won't want to do it.
Holy hell ive just checked this out, whenever i serve the community i cannot stand my addiction, and can fully supress it with pride.
share it with me!!
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Adapted to the changes is one of the key component in strong person attributes, doesnt meaning only physically but having high emotional intelligence, one facts you should not mistaken about powerful individual is Genuinely strong, powerful individuals are attracted to others like themselves. They don't prey on the weak or needy, and they do not need to be needed. They adapt to live and thrive even alone with themselves.
A far bigger threat are the rioters. I haven't heard an exact death toll, but I'm sure it's in double digits now. Over 300 police officers have been injured. Not to mention numerous buildings burned, vandalized, or looted, many owned by minorities. But the same people who told us to shelter in place are promoting these protests. That pretty much confirms the coronavirus was overhyped. If they dismantle the police, who have become a scapegoat, cities are going to be left smoking pits.
The police station was burned because it was symbolic. Police are not firemen and they cant stop arson. If the firemen is dismantled then cities become smoking pits because firemen put out fires. Defund the police means less money goes to police departments and more in community investment. Why should Black taxpayers even pay for the police if they dont get a benefit for it and it is a liability to them? Should communities decide where they want their taxes to go to? Isnt that what democracy is about?
The police were instructed by the mayor to stand down and let the rioters have the police station. They could have stopped it if the mayor had any balls. Despite the demonization of the police, black people benefit greatly from the police since they tend to live in dense, urban, high crime districts. Thankfully for Minneapolis, the mayor there has more sense than the city council, and says they will not dismantle the police department. If they get rid of the police, the only people who will be safe are the rich who can afford their own security.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
ok, thanks for sharing, what an ordeal.
I don't know, most of the protesters look pretty young, and their death rate is far lower than older folks.