"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Count Thy Blessings

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Have a look at the newest issue of Time. The title is Happiness. While the magazine devotes approximately 50 pages to the topic of happiness examined from all possible angles (scientific, religious, social, so on), something caught my eye as to be worthy to go into the tips section here.

Basically, try keeping a what's called a 'gratitude journal', where every week you write down everything you are grateful to have, like health, posessions, friends, body, above-average IQ, a nice school, good parents, high-end computer, whatever :D. Or write about positive things that happened to you over the time of the week.

Studies show that subjects who actively wrote in such a diary became quite happier than the control group. The time period was 8 weeks I think.

Anyways, gotta try it :D.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wiggadude

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I bet everyone who reads that article writes "I'm lucky to be above average" in their gratitude journal.

Hahaha...
 

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Originally posted by wiggadude
I bet everyone who reads that article writes "I'm lucky to be above average" in their gratitude journal.

Hahaha...
or......

I'm lucky that I don't live in a 3rd world country
 

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I just got that issue and started reading it. It just goes to show how rare happiness in these days of wide spread depression. To have to study a subject like happiness seems strange to me when happiness is suppose to be a natural quality that's comes out of everyperson. I like the other things on that list too

Random acts of kindness - holding the door open for a girl you don't know

Savoring life's joy - waking up and just enjoying the warm sunshine or gentle rain

Learn to Forgive - Let go of that anger you have against someone that wronged you in the past

Taking care of your body - need I say more

I just started reading the article, I'm finding it pretty interesting so far. I'll come back with more comments.

Keep up with your journal, I think it's a good idea
 

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Ponder this:

If you are in your 20's, you have approximately less than 3000 weekends left to live.

What will you do with those 3000 weekends?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not a bad idea, I'll have to give it a try. Lately my life has gone to sh*t but I still have things to be grateful for whether I'll admit it or not.
 
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