Couldn't pull: what's up with this girl?

[steppenwolf]

My last date was a couple of Sundays ago.

I met a girl at the mall, who was selling phones in one of those kiosks. I pretended to be interested in an upgrade (well I somewhat am, but mostly interested in her, of course).

I got her to go out to lunch with me (same mall, food court). I thought I got some pretty good IOI's: she squeezed my hand, we hugged to start. Then she asked me if I was in a relationship, and I told her that I was just getting out. She seemed to be skeptical of that, which I thought was funny.

She said she didn't want my girlfriend finding out and "beating her up," lol. And she meant it!

We spent some time strolling the mall, had a couple of quick makeouts near the end.

I tried to pull, but for some reason, she's very hesitant. I invited her over to my apartment to check out some books she said she had an interest in. Nope. I tried to get her out to my car "to listen to music." No dice.

Now the thing is, if we don't hook up within a couple of dates, I figure it's not going through. I usually seal the deal pretty fast, but after 4 hours or so, it still wasn't happening, which is not usually the case.

We've been exchanging texts but she doesn't always respond, especially if the tone is more intimate, rather than friendly.

Do you think this girl has a rocky past? I usually don't get this much resistance.

 

[Plinco]

What's your time worth?

 

[maqnetik]

you feel pressured to close the deal and youre transferring that tension to her causing her to clam up on you.

 

[Iceberg]

I usually seal the deal pretty fast, but after 4 hours or so, it still wasn't happening, which is not usually the case.

It sounds like you've only been on one date with this girl and it was at the mall. Do you seriously find it strange that she didn't want to go out to your car or to your apartment after 4 hours?

Yeah I've had girls who I banged after the first date, but I wouldn't find it strange if they didn't.

Summary: She might be flaky, or you may have came on too strong. Either way, don't invest too much time into her. If you have to chase her just to get a response to a text, then you're already starting off bad.

 

[ARrocket]

Iceberg is correct...you expect a girl you met at the mall to be dtf just like that? I mean yeah it would be nice but it would be far from the norm

I think you did well to start with, but this whole "exchanging texts" thing bothers me. This is your problem. You're talking to her too much. She's gonna be busy living her life, she won't always reply. Girls are like that. They randomly don't reply to texts. It's annoying, but it WILL happen no matter what.

So therefore...stop exchanging these damn texts!!!!!!!! Next time you text her, use those texts to set something up! Meet up, game her in person, and you'll stop having to worry so much.