"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
could you ask a girl this?
- Thread starter napoleon
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Donald Kaufman
Don Juan
Adapt it to your style but I think C+F window shopping or a really off topic movie would be good ways to go. If things go really well, and you can do it in an ironic way, split a couple of those tiny cinnammon hearts with her. If irony isn't your style best to stay away from any mention of the day at all.
Another interesting angle - a few years ago a girl asked me to do something for Valentine's sucks day (celebrated the same day as V day) The days leading up to it we talked about the things one could do to protest V day. Great hilarious self writing convo. I found her more interesting and you'd find out if she was fun or a fat pink slab of tiresome romantic fluff.
If a woman responds to alphaness...and alphaness traits would be direct, unattached, and not care about the outcome...would it stand to be logical that a DIRECT question is better than beating around a bush?
Just a thought. Something that has worked was to be ****y, ballsy, and somewhat arrogant. But being direct is better than being a pvssy and beating around WHAT IT IS YOU WANT.
A-Unit