"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
could you ask a girl this?
- Thread starter napoleon
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
dearsappho
Senior Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Donald Kaufman
Don Juan
Adapt it to your style but I think C+F window shopping or a really off topic movie would be good ways to go. If things go really well, and you can do it in an ironic way, split a couple of those tiny cinnammon hearts with her. If irony isn't your style best to stay away from any mention of the day at all.
Another interesting angle - a few years ago a girl asked me to do something for Valentine's sucks day (celebrated the same day as V day) The days leading up to it we talked about the things one could do to protest V day. Great hilarious self writing convo. I found her more interesting and you'd find out if she was fun or a fat pink slab of tiresome romantic fluff.
If a woman responds to alphaness...and alphaness traits would be direct, unattached, and not care about the outcome...would it stand to be logical that a DIRECT question is better than beating around a bush?
Just a thought. Something that has worked was to be ****y, ballsy, and somewhat arrogant. But being direct is better than being a pvssy and beating around WHAT IT IS YOU WANT.
A-Unit