"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Could we have a forum for Field Reports?

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Threads in the DJ Discussion forum are pushed away from the front page into obscurity in as little as twelve hours. Most of the threads created consist of just a few sentences of guesswork. Why then would people bother to make field reports in the same subforum, threads of substance from your own life which often take a long time to write?

Field reports are among the best possible reading material, especially for those who want to learn. In these you have theory put to practice. Those who write field reports are by definition experienced. These reports are unlike almost everything posted here, they are certainly valuable reading, and they should be encouraged.

I suggest therefore that we have a separate subforum for field reports. I know that I would be much more inclined to write about my own experiences if I knew that they would stay somewhere where people could read them. It seems natural to me that we would have a Field Report Subforum.

I hope this idea can be taken into consideration, and hopefully implemented. Surely SoSuave would be better for it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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we used to... but it wasn't getting used and wasting bandwidth and so it was taken off.
 
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While we're at it, we should have a subforum for journals as well. They almost serve the same purpose as FRs, except they document growth, and can emphasize what went wrong a little better than FRs.
 
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way back when ... a person would put their field report up and continue to add to it over time ... which is kinda the same thing as a journal. so it was all classified as field reports.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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