"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Could we have a forum for Field Reports?

Wolfgang D

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Threads in the DJ Discussion forum are pushed away from the front page into obscurity in as little as twelve hours. Most of the threads created consist of just a few sentences of guesswork. Why then would people bother to make field reports in the same subforum, threads of substance from your own life which often take a long time to write?

Field reports are among the best possible reading material, especially for those who want to learn. In these you have theory put to practice. Those who write field reports are by definition experienced. These reports are unlike almost everything posted here, they are certainly valuable reading, and they should be encouraged.

I suggest therefore that we have a separate subforum for field reports. I know that I would be much more inclined to write about my own experiences if I knew that they would stay somewhere where people could read them. It seems natural to me that we would have a Field Report Subforum.

I hope this idea can be taken into consideration, and hopefully implemented. Surely SoSuave would be better for it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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penkitten

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we used to... but it wasn't getting used and wasting bandwidth and so it was taken off.
 

Eph

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While we're at it, we should have a subforum for journals as well. They almost serve the same purpose as FRs, except they document growth, and can emphasize what went wrong a little better than FRs.
 

penkitten

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way back when ... a person would put their field report up and continue to add to it over time ... which is kinda the same thing as a journal. so it was all classified as field reports.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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