Hey guys, I recently just got out of a relationship, and moved back in with my parents. I havn't even really moved in with them, 95% of my stuff is chillin in their garage and the rest is in the house. I'm 20 now, and so far it appears that my parents are content with continuing to treat me like a 15 year old teenager that they need to keep track of. They need to know where I'm going, what I'm doing, and how long I'm going to be gone every time I leave, and if I just leave then they call my cell phone and leave voice mails if I don't. How can I get my parents to stop treating me like this?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Could use some advice
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Get the 'for rent' newspaper classified ads. Circle a few promising ads and leave it out where mom will find it. Say nothing about it, and see if it affects how they treat you.
I remember having that problem too and they would always pull the "if you're under my roof you obey our rules and show us respect" statement.
In the end I just spoke to them directly and explained I am an adult and I need to feel my independence. I also told them that the way they treated me made me undermined as an adult. It worked out well. They had to adjust and there was a period where they tried hard to act cool, but it worked out in the end.
In the end I just spoke to them directly and explained I am an adult and I need to feel my independence. I also told them that the way they treated me made me undermined as an adult. It worked out well. They had to adjust and there was a period where they tried hard to act cool, but it worked out in the end.
Doggystyle
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heres what i do
where I'm going,
meeting some friends
what I'm doing,
not decided yet
and how long I'm going to be gone,
who knows! might be back tonight, might not....
where I'm going,
meeting some friends
what I'm doing,
not decided yet
and how long I'm going to be gone,
who knows! might be back tonight, might not....
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SELF-MASTERY
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How about just telling them what you are doing and where you are going, it's not totally unreasonable?
You never get too old for your parents not to care. Be glad that someone gives a fk about you, even if it makes you feel like a kid... Let go of your ego. Deal with it and move on.
You never get too old for your parents not to care. Be glad that someone gives a fk about you, even if it makes you feel like a kid... Let go of your ego. Deal with it and move on.