"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

Read more...

could use a little advice

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
Before I post this, I want you to know that this girl I am reffering to you as someone I am see as a friend, even thoush she is pretty cute, I am not trying to **** or have a LTR, I have enoguh **** Buddies to get a good friend envolved with me and I just got out of a LTR, but this is just got me curious.

Thiis girl I am very, very good friends with. She calls me all the time, usually at night (and usually I don't answer) but that's not the point.

There is this guy, total AFC if there was one.. sad thing is that coming from a man, he is pretty good looking... he actually is a model (just shows what AFCdom can do for you) is so obsessed with this girl it's out of control. She was telling me this stuff that he was saying and I honestly didn't believe her, so she put me on three-way while she called him and low and behold, he was that bad of a chump. The guy told her he wanted to marry her... and she just broke up with this guys best friend 1 week ago (he had been hounding her the entire time) He gets mad at her for letting other friends, including girls call her and they aren't even dating, nor does she have any intention on dating him.

However (bare wiith me, i'm a little tipsy) that's not my point either. Yesterday she called me at 4 in the morning. She knows me to the point where she knows I am usually wide awoke, so I had no problem talking to her, as I was done working.

Now, I am actually trying to help this poor guy out, trying to get her to have sex with him before she stopps talking with him (don't know why, jsut fun to see what I can get away with) And she goes onto this rant about " there are is no one I want to date right now"... I have an idea of what that means but I let it slide because like I said, it's not like that with her, I really dont' want her, and I am talking to her telling her that (my exact words) she needs some d**k and I asked her when was the last time she had been f**ked, not had sex, but f**ked and she said it has been awhile. She told me how she grabbed this guys **** last week while they were in the car, and she didn't get turned on by it.

Again, I am getting off point, let me wrap this up.

If any of you know me, you know I have (now it's had) a GF that 's pretty damn good looking (her pic is on this site, just look up my name) We broke up, or I broke up with her around 2 weeks ago for reasons I don't want tog et into, mainly because I don't see her as LTR material any longer. Now, she was over my house earlier today and we were watching the sopranos and my phone rang, and I had a voice mail. These two girls never got along and I stopped talking to my friend for a second because I wanted to give the girl I was in a LTR every opprotunity to prove herself, letting her hang herself with her own rope.

so anyway of course I don't pick up, and my ex gets an attitude and leaves, even though she ended up coming back. But when I called my friend, and told her that she called me when my ex was over here she said "you should have told her that me and you have been sleeping together the last week every night". Now normally I wouldn't have thought twice about that, and to be honestly I did brush it off, but I have noticed a pattern of her making subjective remarks towards me.

So there was this party out of town that I was going tonight. I told her I was going, and it just so happens that the guy that is riding her jock strap like a horse jockey lives in this town and he wants to see her. So she says " hey, how about when you get to the party, you call me so I can come kick it with you, it will give me an excuse to leave him, and I will see you".... NOw of course I didn't call her because I was busy getting on the girls there, and boy was it some girls there.

So I call her when i am going back to town just to kill time and it turns out she couldn't go anyway. She says she is going to sleep, so I tell her to get off the phone so Ican call another girl and she says "You aren't going to cheat on me, i'm staying on the phone" and we ended up talking.

I used to date her best friend in high school (I am now 22) and her best friend is now what I would call a slut. I told her "damn, if jenn were here I would have ****ed the **** out of her". She quickly said "No you wouldn't"... which to me sounded more like "I wouldn't let you"... mind you I really wouldn't have touched this girl with someone else's ****, but I was just probing to see what is going on with this girl.

Now, if i'm not mistaken, It hink this girl wants to **** me.... And to be honest she is pretty damn good looking, but the f unny part is I feel like a woman when she LJBF's a guy, and even though I think she is cute, I am getting soo much ass right now, I don't want to hurt her feelings because I am not going to date her and I am not going to give up the girls to be with her, so I want to keep it as friends.

So I guess what i am asking is a) do you guys think what I am thinking that she is interestd and b)if she is, how do I difsuse it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

nishbuk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 30, 2004
Messages
535
Reaction score
3
Location
MTL
Now I definitely don't have as much experience as yourself, but I think that the way to diffuse any girl's passion and get LJBFed, is simple.

Think ANTI-BIBLE! lol.

just tell her all about your feelings for other women, and become ultra sensitive around her. If she has girl problems, listen to them, and soak up her tears and stress like the emotional tampon that you want to become to her. Tell her everything about yourself so there is no mystery, and don't stop talking about yourself.
:biggrin:
 

backbreaker

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 24, 2002
Messages
11,546
Reaction score
572
Location
monrovia, CA
but I don't want to become AFC in the process... I mean, you never know what might take place in the future
 

Reborn Don Juan

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 7, 2005
Messages
15
Reaction score
0
I'm pretty new, but the way I see it, why don't you just tell her, "Look, I can afford not sleeping with you, but I can't afford losing a friend."

That way no egos are hurt, and you get your point through, and aren't ambigous (sending mixed signals) either.
 

nishbuk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 30, 2004
Messages
535
Reaction score
3
Location
MTL
Originally posted by backbreaker
but I don't want to become AFC in the process... I mean, you never know what might take place in the future
Lol. Well then I have no idea. :( Somebody else should be better suited to answer.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top