Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is it possible that an extremely good looking guy, like let's say someone who would look like Brad Pitt could become unattractive to women at some point?

And Obviously I don't mean at the physical level like he would gain weight or get face deformed.

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Of course, why not?

Looks dont have as much an effect on women as they do for men. Women are all about emotions. If this Brad Pitt lookalike doesnt stir up emotions inside her, she wont really be attracted to him beyond basic physical stuff. And as we all know, that doesnt go very far.
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Is it possible that an extremely good looking guy, like let's say someone who would look like Brad Pitt could become unattractive to women at some point?

And Obviously I don't mean at the physical level like he would gain weight or get face deformed.

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So, hypothetically.

You are a good looking guy (like Brad Pitt) and you are unatractive to women?


Why don't you be a little straight?
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Is it possible that an extremely good looking guy, like let's say someone who would look like Brad Pitt could become unattractive to women at some point?

And Obviously I don't mean at the physical level like he would gain weight or get face deformed.

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Have you seen Brad Pitt now as opposed to how he looked 5 years ago? He looks like Mickey Rourke after falling off his bike and scraping the fvck outta his face. The guy's horrendous.

And yes, the reason you can't get women even though you're "good looking" is your defeatist attitude.
 
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Well, defeatist attitude... exactly about that I'd like to know more. I'm impressed by your conclusion, specially because you nailed it better than anyone else...
How do I start to change that?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well, defeatist attitude... exactly about that I'd like to know more. I'm impressed by your conclusion, specially because you nailed it better than anyone else...
How do I start to change that?
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Aha! That IS you.


Answer to question: keep trying different things and find something that works for you. Try being nice, tough, desperate, emo.... whatever. Just find something that works good. Try, try, and try some more, and when you fail, do something else and keep trying.
 
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In that way, I do agree, I should try completely different things, and I will, trust me. But I don't know If it is a problem that I am kinda Shallow, 'and always swinged for the fence' you know...
I always tend to go to bars and approach the best looking girl there is. and at the beginning they like me, 9 out ten times I get their numbers, BUT 10 out of 10 times Something never has happened.... I am an Idiot in knowing how to keep the interest in a girl or even knowing how to ask them out for the 1st time without looking F***ing needy! and as response they always seem to have other things to do, just the day I ask'em out.
 
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i'm not a master; but i want to comment about an episode of "blind date" that i saw which relates to this.

the guy fit your description of being extremely good-looking: tall, buff, dirty blonde hair, he even had some European accent or something, he had style too... this guy really fit your description

when the girl first meets this guy, it's obvious that she's strongly attracted to him. she's the one being playful, flirtatious... she even brings up sex. for instance, she asked him if he's ever been in a threesome.

although this guy was extremely good-looking, he was also unfortunately extremely shy... his shyness was holding him back big time; he came across way too serious and it made him out to have no personality at all. she asked him a sexual question, for instance, and it really stumped him... he lost his composure and couldn't even answer the damn question. she even asked him if he "dates a lot," but it was obvious she asked him this because he seemed so inexperienced. the only time he broke out of his shell was in one scene where he wrestled her to the ground (that was after she was ****ing w/ him by poking him playfully w/ a sword numerous times) when he did this, i was like "yeah, she belongs to him now" but unfortunately, his non-playful and extremely shy attitude came back to haunt him.

what was interesting about this episode was that you can clearly see the girl's attraction level start at an all time high, only to decrease little by little as the date goes on. she at first was obviously really attracted to him because he was extremely good-looking, but as she got to know his personality, her initial attraction for him would disappear.
 
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ChaoticGamer said:
Is it possible that an extremely good looking guy, like let's say someone who would look like Brad Pitt could become unattractive to women at some point?

And Obviously I don't mean at the physical level like he would gain weight or get face deformed.

Masters' replies would be great...
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I will tell you one thing...not every woman found Brad Pitt attractive (some women don't like blondes...others don't like white). Attraction is a very personal thing.

And I think that Brad Pitt (the 40+ version) has more to do with how he currently carries himself (masculine) than his current looks. He is not the "young looking" man that he used to be 5-10 years ago. But he still carries himself in a masculine way. Fact is...he dumped his wife for whatever reason and sought the woman that was willing to satisfy him (mentally or whatever). Tom Cruise did the same.

To answer your question...of course! It is possible for a man that is extremely "good looking" to become unattractive. Heck, he could be "good looking" and at the same time NONE attractive. Especially if he is dealing with women that are intelligent and have focus in their lives. Another thing...what many men might view as "attractive"...women might not view it that way. Look at Benicio del Toro or Billy Bob Thorton: both are not "pretty"...but women find them attractive.

I have been with women that were with men that were "prettier" or have better bodies than me. But they lacked in other areas...apparentally the areas that truly mattered the most to those women.

Don't confuse "looks" with "attractiveness".
 
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